First of all, thank you for sharing your concerns and asking very important questions. Since I am much, much older than you, I hope you find value to what I have to share with you.
It is clear from your posting that you know your body very well and have found your "gee" spots. However, you stated that you have had intercourse with your boyfriend only twice so far. So, I doubt he has had enough time to learn to read your body. He is probably still thinking about his own pleasing (men are more practical about sexual matters). Once the fireworks or the newness are over and more opportunities for intimacy present, I think you will be able to guide him to places in your body you find more pleasurable. And if he really cares about the relationship or has the maturity to listen attentively, he'll become very good at it!
But remember, the art of love making should not be limited to the physical act alone. There are emotional components to the process that will surface as you both mature in the relationship. Women tend to enjoy foreplay longer than men, if you have not done much of this, I suggest you try taking time to do it as it will prepare your body better before penetration.
Your brain is also an important part of the love-making process as it will direct the right physiological responses to the right places and at the right time, including lubrication when needed.
The measure of successful sexual performance is not only based on how many orgasms you achieve each time you have sex, but about how the "love-making" encounter brings two people closer physically, emotionally and spiritually. This is possible with the willingness of both partners to commit to building intimacy.
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Dear Boston18:
First of all, thank you for sharing your concerns and asking very important questions. Since I am much, much older than you, I hope you find value to what I have to share with you.
It is clear from your posting that you know your body very well and have found your "gee" spots. However, you stated that you have had intercourse with your boyfriend only twice so far. So, I doubt he has had enough time to learn to read your body. He is probably still thinking about his own pleasing (men are more practical about sexual matters). Once the fireworks or the newness are over and more opportunities for intimacy present, I think you will be able to guide him to places in your body you find more pleasurable. And if he really cares about the relationship or has the maturity to listen attentively, he'll become very good at it!
But remember, the art of love making should not be limited to the physical act alone. There are emotional components to the process that will surface as you both mature in the relationship. Women tend to enjoy foreplay longer than men, if you have not done much of this, I suggest you try taking time to do it as it will prepare your body better before penetration.
Your brain is also an important part of the love-making process as it will direct the right physiological responses to the right places and at the right time, including lubrication when needed.
The measure of successful sexual performance is not only based on how many orgasms you achieve each time you have sex, but about how the "love-making" encounter brings two people closer physically, emotionally and spiritually. This is possible with the willingness of both partners to commit to building intimacy.
I wish you well.
January 27, 2009 - 12:32amThis Comment
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