So sorry for whatever and whoever it is that you are dealing with. Yes, I've been where you are.
And yes, I think it's hardest when you truly believed that someone had changed. Especially if you'd started taking them at their word again, without waiting for the other shoe to drop. When it drops after all, you can't believe it, all over again.
The compulsive liar in my life is a family member. He's a loving soul, but he lies. I can't pretend to untangle it.
It's very hard not to feel betrayed, attacked or taken for granted when someone is a compulsive liar. Sometimes we feel stupid, angry or hurt. Sometimes we feel all three.
It must be part of human nature -- or is it particularly the nature of women? I'm not sure -- that we want to believe so badly in those close to us, even if past evidence has shown us that it's not a high percentage move.
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Miscortes,
So sorry for whatever and whoever it is that you are dealing with. Yes, I've been where you are.
And yes, I think it's hardest when you truly believed that someone had changed. Especially if you'd started taking them at their word again, without waiting for the other shoe to drop. When it drops after all, you can't believe it, all over again.
The compulsive liar in my life is a family member. He's a loving soul, but he lies. I can't pretend to untangle it.
It's very hard not to feel betrayed, attacked or taken for granted when someone is a compulsive liar. Sometimes we feel stupid, angry or hurt. Sometimes we feel all three.
It must be part of human nature -- or is it particularly the nature of women? I'm not sure -- that we want to believe so badly in those close to us, even if past evidence has shown us that it's not a high percentage move.
February 24, 2009 - 10:19amThis Comment
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