I am repulsed by this whole "Cougar" title!
I believe the tabloid media, that we all love so much, are the culprits of this trend. I started dating a man 10 years younger than I am, just over 3 years ago. I am in my mid-thirties now and he is in his mid-twenties. At first I thought, he is fun and sweet and we have a good time together so... we can date but I can't get serious with him because the age difference would make me look foolish (of course I didn't share those exact thoughts). But after only a month or so of just enjoying time together ~ I realized that he was actually much more mature than most men my age (just because that is his personality) and before I knew it... Ooopss, I fell for him... as he fell for me right away!
We had some typical "new relationship" transitional roads humps to pass over in the first yr and a half or so... but we made it through because it was meant to be. We were married in March of this year.
I do NOT like the double standard that is so easily applied to the scenario between men dating younger women and women dating younger men. It is rather INSULTING to me! I by no means took advantage of him ~ nor do I believe it is standard for that to be the case of any other relationship with an older woman and a younger man. Younger men like older women because they are mature, know what they want, know where they are going, are certain of what they want sexually and are not afraid to tell them without hesitation. My husband has explained to me that older women also do not play childish games, they respect boundaries and have enough pride in who they are as a woman to demand the respect they deserve without a dramatic public scene and/or fit throwing fights. I myself really liked the fact that although I had been married once before and that I had a son from that marriage... he did not have a previous wife or children to factor into the equation (that was a bonus to all of his other wonderful gifts)!
I believe younger men across the world feel like my husband does and I believe that many of the older women possibly are tired of being dumped by their husbands or boyfriends for a younger woman with a better body. So they took charge and owned their "RIGHT" to choose whoever they wanted to form a relationship with ~ to have any and all of their needs met!
Sure ... while the fact that they are always "rearing to go" in love making, time and time again, is surely a wonderful surprise that is only one of the many awesome bonuses they bring to the plate! :) They make us feel respected and honored, admired and appreciated and certainly they make us feel younger to boot!!
So I say, GO LADIES GO, we earned our rights to vote, we earned our rights to equal employment AND pay in the work world, we earned our rights to be treated with respect in the work place ... and... we earned our right to CHOOSE whatever makes us HAPPY!!
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I am repulsed by this whole "Cougar" title!
I believe the tabloid media, that we all love so much, are the culprits of this trend. I started dating a man 10 years younger than I am, just over 3 years ago. I am in my mid-thirties now and he is in his mid-twenties. At first I thought, he is fun and sweet and we have a good time together so... we can date but I can't get serious with him because the age difference would make me look foolish (of course I didn't share those exact thoughts). But after only a month or so of just enjoying time together ~ I realized that he was actually much more mature than most men my age (just because that is his personality) and before I knew it... Ooopss, I fell for him... as he fell for me right away!
We had some typical "new relationship" transitional roads humps to pass over in the first yr and a half or so... but we made it through because it was meant to be. We were married in March of this year.
I do NOT like the double standard that is so easily applied to the scenario between men dating younger women and women dating younger men. It is rather INSULTING to me! I by no means took advantage of him ~ nor do I believe it is standard for that to be the case of any other relationship with an older woman and a younger man. Younger men like older women because they are mature, know what they want, know where they are going, are certain of what they want sexually and are not afraid to tell them without hesitation. My husband has explained to me that older women also do not play childish games, they respect boundaries and have enough pride in who they are as a woman to demand the respect they deserve without a dramatic public scene and/or fit throwing fights. I myself really liked the fact that although I had been married once before and that I had a son from that marriage... he did not have a previous wife or children to factor into the equation (that was a bonus to all of his other wonderful gifts)!
I believe younger men across the world feel like my husband does and I believe that many of the older women possibly are tired of being dumped by their husbands or boyfriends for a younger woman with a better body. So they took charge and owned their "RIGHT" to choose whoever they wanted to form a relationship with ~ to have any and all of their needs met!
Sure ... while the fact that they are always "rearing to go" in love making, time and time again, is surely a wonderful surprise that is only one of the many awesome bonuses they bring to the plate! :) They make us feel respected and honored, admired and appreciated and certainly they make us feel younger to boot!!
So I say, GO LADIES GO, we earned our rights to vote, we earned our rights to equal employment AND pay in the work world, we earned our rights to be treated with respect in the work place ... and... we earned our right to CHOOSE whatever makes us HAPPY!!
July 19, 2009 - 7:49amThis Comment
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