You have responded well to all who have given you input. You have heard from one who says of knowing of a female who had a Hysterectomy and it all worked out fine and well. This is great to hear, but there are too many who suffer - much more than those who are doing okay. My point here is this: there are too many of us out here who have experienced hideous and horrific consequences in the aftermath. Can you afford to take that chance when there are alternatives available. Even with fibroids, one can just wait and let nature take its course. I wish I was made aware of this; i.e., I could have done nothing, and yes, suffered with heavy periods still, but in the long run, the fibroids will shrink and life and nature will put it back right. I would have rather dealt with this and left my body in tact, rather than suffer with what I deal with daily now. Terri, do you think so many people responding here are making this up? It is real. It happens. I think you just cannot afford to make a decision on something where in the aftermath; there is no going back.
Of course, do your research, but by hearing from people as myself, please take this into serious consideration. We who have had this done and are now suffering only implore you to not do it because of this chance you will take. Research the alternatives, all of them, but also - think about doing nothing, and just seek help to get you through this while nature works with you and takes its course. That is a great alternative
also. This is what I would have done, had I known what I would be dealing with now. You may hear of women who will say they feel fine after a Hyst., but I guarantee there is a percentage of these women who are only hiding and not speaking up for fear of being questioned. As I said in a previous post, and this is fact, women have been afraid to say anything for fear of someone thinking "it is all in your head". Those are the women out there who break my heart. They live in their own private "H---". Terri, do not become one of these women either. And, you want to have a relationship with someone, thinking of this? Well, get ready for the possible aftermath of a Hyst. to become a 'shell' of a female in the sex department. You can talk to my husband who I have been married to for 26 years. He will confirm the 'sex kitten' I was before the Hyst., and now I could care less for love making. Do you want to chance this? I even think I could handle the physical pain I deal with after the Hyst., but to feel different in this department is too awful, and it has not only hurt me, but also my beloved husband. I only thank that he was/is my best friend first, and accepts the horrific thing done to me physically, emotionally, and sexually - in terms of not wanting to have sex. I mean it, and welcome to ask him. I was the promotor of sex before, and he is lucky to get a good, hard kiss from me now.
Terri, I have said so much with my posts, but in essence, I just do not want to have you RISK what has happened to me and millions of other women. I hope, with my posts, I have helped. This was my initial goal. I do appreciate that you have shared, and let me share too. I am wishing the best outcome for you, but please, oh please, do not do this unneccesary surgery. As I was trying to express to 'Alison' who posted; it may be fine and well to listen and ascertain all sides, but had I heard what I have posted before my Hyst.; I would have not gone through with it. Gosh, how I wish I would have heard from someone as myself beforehand.
On a final note, research, but please, oh please, take the time, effort and whatever to contact Nora at the Hers Foundation. She, and her great group are not 'one-sided'. She has gone through this herself, and understands all what women have to make with a decision on pertaining to this life altering surgery. She is the expert. Yet, I am a 'personal' expert. It could happen to you what happened to me. Do not take that chance... Now, I have said my 'piece' and 'peace' on this.
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Hello Terri,
You have responded well to all who have given you input. You have heard from one who says of knowing of a female who had a Hysterectomy and it all worked out fine and well. This is great to hear, but there are too many who suffer - much more than those who are doing okay. My point here is this: there are too many of us out here who have experienced hideous and horrific consequences in the aftermath. Can you afford to take that chance when there are alternatives available. Even with fibroids, one can just wait and let nature take its course. I wish I was made aware of this; i.e., I could have done nothing, and yes, suffered with heavy periods still, but in the long run, the fibroids will shrink and life and nature will put it back right. I would have rather dealt with this and left my body in tact, rather than suffer with what I deal with daily now. Terri, do you think so many people responding here are making this up? It is real. It happens. I think you just cannot afford to make a decision on something where in the aftermath; there is no going back.
Of course, do your research, but by hearing from people as myself, please take this into serious consideration. We who have had this done and are now suffering only implore you to not do it because of this chance you will take. Research the alternatives, all of them, but also - think about doing nothing, and just seek help to get you through this while nature works with you and takes its course. That is a great alternative
also. This is what I would have done, had I known what I would be dealing with now. You may hear of women who will say they feel fine after a Hyst., but I guarantee there is a percentage of these women who are only hiding and not speaking up for fear of being questioned. As I said in a previous post, and this is fact, women have been afraid to say anything for fear of someone thinking "it is all in your head". Those are the women out there who break my heart. They live in their own private "H---". Terri, do not become one of these women either. And, you want to have a relationship with someone, thinking of this? Well, get ready for the possible aftermath of a Hyst. to become a 'shell' of a female in the sex department. You can talk to my husband who I have been married to for 26 years. He will confirm the 'sex kitten' I was before the Hyst., and now I could care less for love making. Do you want to chance this? I even think I could handle the physical pain I deal with after the Hyst., but to feel different in this department is too awful, and it has not only hurt me, but also my beloved husband. I only thank that he was/is my best friend first, and accepts the horrific thing done to me physically, emotionally, and sexually - in terms of not wanting to have sex. I mean it, and welcome to ask him. I was the promotor of sex before, and he is lucky to get a good, hard kiss from me now.
Terri, I have said so much with my posts, but in essence, I just do not want to have you RISK what has happened to me and millions of other women. I hope, with my posts, I have helped. This was my initial goal. I do appreciate that you have shared, and let me share too. I am wishing the best outcome for you, but please, oh please, do not do this unneccesary surgery. As I was trying to express to 'Alison' who posted; it may be fine and well to listen and ascertain all sides, but had I heard what I have posted before my Hyst.; I would have not gone through with it. Gosh, how I wish I would have heard from someone as myself beforehand.
On a final note, research, but please, oh please, take the time, effort and whatever to contact Nora at the Hers Foundation. She, and her great group are not 'one-sided'. She has gone through this herself, and understands all what women have to make with a decision on pertaining to this life altering surgery. She is the expert. Yet, I am a 'personal' expert. It could happen to you what happened to me. Do not take that chance... Now, I have said my 'piece' and 'peace' on this.
Fare thee well, dear Terri...
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