It is amazing that this thread has lasted this long. While I agree with a lot of what you have said, I think there are no guarantees in life. Divorce happens for lots of reasons. I am very sorry you have had to endure a lot of difficulties.
I just turned 46. I have to see (on Facebook) many women 5 - 10 years younger having children. Although I am very happy for them, it does make me sad to know that I will NEVER become a mother. I do have parents that I am there for and they are very much like children, which makes me frustrated, but I have to say they are very lucky that I don't have kids. I know they would have never wanted me to have kids, because my mom was angry at my sister for having children. I sometimes imagine when I am with them, what it would be like to have a normal family and having a child that my parent's could enjoy, but my life never turned out that way.
I am fortunate in many ways, and I try to focus on that. Life without kids can be good, but it has it's moments, just like life with kids. I am glad though in one way, because I think many people have kids so they won't be alone, which is not fair. I have no problem being alone. My parents have played the "I am all alone card on me for 20 years" It is very exhausting, because people in life have to be responsible for their own happiness.
So, while having a child at my age is out of the question. I think there are many people out there that have supportive families, money, a supportive significant other and their health, so I wouldn't discourage everyone.
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It is amazing that this thread has lasted this long. While I agree with a lot of what you have said, I think there are no guarantees in life. Divorce happens for lots of reasons. I am very sorry you have had to endure a lot of difficulties.
September 29, 2011 - 4:15pmI just turned 46. I have to see (on Facebook) many women 5 - 10 years younger having children. Although I am very happy for them, it does make me sad to know that I will NEVER become a mother. I do have parents that I am there for and they are very much like children, which makes me frustrated, but I have to say they are very lucky that I don't have kids. I know they would have never wanted me to have kids, because my mom was angry at my sister for having children. I sometimes imagine when I am with them, what it would be like to have a normal family and having a child that my parent's could enjoy, but my life never turned out that way.
I am fortunate in many ways, and I try to focus on that. Life without kids can be good, but it has it's moments, just like life with kids. I am glad though in one way, because I think many people have kids so they won't be alone, which is not fair. I have no problem being alone. My parents have played the "I am all alone card on me for 20 years" It is very exhausting, because people in life have to be responsible for their own happiness.
So, while having a child at my age is out of the question. I think there are many people out there that have supportive families, money, a supportive significant other and their health, so I wouldn't discourage everyone.
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