Hi,
Your first question, what does it mean when a "girl gets wet" sounds like you already know, but it is a natural/normal part of a women's arousal, and her vagina becomes lubricated. And, as you experienced, this is typically a good thing, because sex without lubrication is painful!
You described that you have vaginal dryness with your new boyfriend. This has many causes or reasons, including:
- not being aroused enough before sex
- not wanting to have sex (your body might know something your mind doesn't want to admit?!)
- having sex before you are ready
- stress
- medications
What can you do about vaginal dryness? Depends on why you have vaginal dryness, especially if this is a new experience for you. Be honest with yourself, and if you/your boyfriend are having sex before you are ready, then slow down. If you two are having intercourse before you have had enough foreplay and are adequately aroused, then slow down. If you are worried about not liking him enough, then (you guessed it!) slow down. :)
However, if you think it is a case of nerves, stress or any new medications, then have you tried a sexual lubricant? There are many types on the market, some are flavored, some are different colors, some even heat up with friction...you can make it fun!...and there is nothing wrong with using it. Many couples use lubricants when using condoms (which I would HIGHLY recommend using condoms with a new boyfriend!!).
Some water-based lubricants on the market (buy at any drugstore) include astroglide or K-Y.
Does this help?
The main thing is that you are comfortable and enjoying your sexual experiences. Having sex when it is painful can have adverse effects (some women experience vaginal dryness more often because their bodies "recall" painful intercourse). I hope your boyfriend would not want to have intercourse if you are experiencing pain, also. And please know, what you are experiencing is normal and not unusual at all! It's sometimes scary and intimidating (and exciting) to have intercourse with a new partner, so just listen to your mind and body, and practice safer sex.
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Hi,
Your first question, what does it mean when a "girl gets wet" sounds like you already know, but it is a natural/normal part of a women's arousal, and her vagina becomes lubricated. And, as you experienced, this is typically a good thing, because sex without lubrication is painful!
You described that you have vaginal dryness with your new boyfriend. This has many causes or reasons, including:
- not being aroused enough before sex
- not wanting to have sex (your body might know something your mind doesn't want to admit?!)
- having sex before you are ready
- stress
- medications
What can you do about vaginal dryness? Depends on why you have vaginal dryness, especially if this is a new experience for you. Be honest with yourself, and if you/your boyfriend are having sex before you are ready, then slow down. If you two are having intercourse before you have had enough foreplay and are adequately aroused, then slow down. If you are worried about not liking him enough, then (you guessed it!) slow down. :)
However, if you think it is a case of nerves, stress or any new medications, then have you tried a sexual lubricant? There are many types on the market, some are flavored, some are different colors, some even heat up with friction...you can make it fun!...and there is nothing wrong with using it. Many couples use lubricants when using condoms (which I would HIGHLY recommend using condoms with a new boyfriend!!).
Some water-based lubricants on the market (buy at any drugstore) include astroglide or K-Y.
Does this help?
The main thing is that you are comfortable and enjoying your sexual experiences. Having sex when it is painful can have adverse effects (some women experience vaginal dryness more often because their bodies "recall" painful intercourse). I hope your boyfriend would not want to have intercourse if you are experiencing pain, also. And please know, what you are experiencing is normal and not unusual at all! It's sometimes scary and intimidating (and exciting) to have intercourse with a new partner, so just listen to your mind and body, and practice safer sex.
April 14, 2009 - 12:11pmThis Comment
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