I'm not a plastic surgery lobbyist, though I believe some readers may think I am. The only reason I've written about it so much is I have learned more than the average layperson about the topic from a writing role I used to have.
When I first started writing about plastic surgery a few years ago, the idea of electing a procedure simply to improve form (not function) of a body part was a bit foreign to me as well. But after talking to many patients and physicians about it, a couple of things moderated my feelings a bit. First, I learned that plastic surgery is generally very safe and routine, especially when a physician who is board certified in plastic surgery is at the helm. Second, I found out so many people feel so much more satisfied with their appearance after surgery--relieved, pleased, even joyful. Just imagine having a dream come true. Not a dream of having outlandishly huge breasts, or the one I read today in which a woman has had dozens of surgeries so she can look like Nefertiti (I kid you not). But a simple dream of having a nose that doesn't dominate your face so much that people remark on it. Or reducing the size of 4D breasts on a petite, 5' 3" body. Talk about a new lease on life!
These days I believe that how a person feels about herself is everything. In fact, I think it's probably the leading factor in how womens' partners feel about plastic surgery. I know my husband doesn't feel I need it--he loves me the way I am and it would never occur to him that I should change myself. But if I wanted surgery for good reasons, and convinced him that it would improve my outlook on my own life (even if implants were involved), he would say "go for it."
In my experience, most men worth anything indeed won't care if you have tuberous breasts. They also won't care if you have implants. What they will care about--and respond to intimately--is that you feel good about yourself. And that's what you should care about, feeling good about yourself. Surgery's right for some, not for others. Do what's right for you.
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I'm not a plastic surgery lobbyist, though I believe some readers may think I am. The only reason I've written about it so much is I have learned more than the average layperson about the topic from a writing role I used to have.
When I first started writing about plastic surgery a few years ago, the idea of electing a procedure simply to improve form (not function) of a body part was a bit foreign to me as well. But after talking to many patients and physicians about it, a couple of things moderated my feelings a bit. First, I learned that plastic surgery is generally very safe and routine, especially when a physician who is board certified in plastic surgery is at the helm. Second, I found out so many people feel so much more satisfied with their appearance after surgery--relieved, pleased, even joyful. Just imagine having a dream come true. Not a dream of having outlandishly huge breasts, or the one I read today in which a woman has had dozens of surgeries so she can look like Nefertiti (I kid you not). But a simple dream of having a nose that doesn't dominate your face so much that people remark on it. Or reducing the size of 4D breasts on a petite, 5' 3" body. Talk about a new lease on life!
These days I believe that how a person feels about herself is everything. In fact, I think it's probably the leading factor in how womens' partners feel about plastic surgery. I know my husband doesn't feel I need it--he loves me the way I am and it would never occur to him that I should change myself. But if I wanted surgery for good reasons, and convinced him that it would improve my outlook on my own life (even if implants were involved), he would say "go for it."
In my experience, most men worth anything indeed won't care if you have tuberous breasts. They also won't care if you have implants. What they will care about--and respond to intimately--is that you feel good about yourself. And that's what you should care about, feeling good about yourself. Surgery's right for some, not for others. Do what's right for you.
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