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I have had a similar experience. Two friends, that i met through my husband prior to our marriage, didn't call once to see how i was doing, and both knew that i was going in for surgery, and how complex and major of a surgery it was. I have yet to hear from either one of them and the surgery was three weeks ago. I am guessing that as Maria mentioned - fear. Not sure what to expect, have i changed, am i still the same person i was prior to the surgery, are they supposed to be sympathetic to me, should they treat me differently, blah blah blah. Although it is discomforting to have friends that you felt were close, to keep their distance at a time when friends and family mean the most and are the most welcome, I also have to remember that not everyone knows how to handle a situation such as this and i cannot judge them because of this one incident. They are valuable friends in many other ways so we just have to keep an open mind, and an open heart to those that are less fortunate than ourselves and do not have the inner strength to face someone going through an ordeal such as ours.