I've been with my boyfriend for over three years. The first year and a half we had an amazing sex life. He would also masturbate on occasion n it never bothered me. Then we bought a house together n he had alot more privacy. We stopped having sex, from 3-4 times a week to 3 times a month at the most. He started watching alot if porn. When I found out he watched young teen girls I was alarmed and very hurt. He denied it but kept doing it. Then he started hiding it. When I asked him to stop for awhile he would then lie about it. I suggest he has an addiction but he gets mad with me and denies it. I wAnt sex! If I could masturbate and it be fulfilling then I would. But I can't. Well I have needs as much as He does. I'm willing to give him whatever he wants, but I have nothing he wants from me. He seemingly can not control himself. Does that mean I don't need to control my sexual urges for human contact and cheat on him? I would still love him and it would be as discrete as his porn. I have recently gotten him to agree to giving up porn for awhile. He still has no interest in sex or me, but now just masturbates whenever he can. I would obviously just walk out on him of this wasn't our only issue. He's kind and affectionate, respectful and faithful. But I don't know what else I can suggest or do that would improve this problem. It's not like he doesn't have a sex drive, he's said himself he would jerkoff at times everyday. Hes been using porn since he was a kid n it was most deffinetly an obsession at one time. I just can't believe that I have falling in love with a person that seems to have absolutely no interest in having sex with someone they love. And if this is just how he is, do I really have to let someone go based on simply who they are in the bedroom.?
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I've been with my boyfriend for over three years. The first year and a half we had an amazing sex life. He would also masturbate on occasion n it never bothered me. Then we bought a house together n he had alot more privacy. We stopped having sex, from 3-4 times a week to 3 times a month at the most. He started watching alot if porn. When I found out he watched young teen girls I was alarmed and very hurt. He denied it but kept doing it. Then he started hiding it. When I asked him to stop for awhile he would then lie about it. I suggest he has an addiction but he gets mad with me and denies it. I wAnt sex! If I could masturbate and it be fulfilling then I would. But I can't. Well I have needs as much as He does. I'm willing to give him whatever he wants, but I have nothing he wants from me. He seemingly can not control himself. Does that mean I don't need to control my sexual urges for human contact and cheat on him? I would still love him and it would be as discrete as his porn. I have recently gotten him to agree to giving up porn for awhile. He still has no interest in sex or me, but now just masturbates whenever he can. I would obviously just walk out on him of this wasn't our only issue. He's kind and affectionate, respectful and faithful. But I don't know what else I can suggest or do that would improve this problem. It's not like he doesn't have a sex drive, he's said himself he would jerkoff at times everyday. Hes been using porn since he was a kid n it was most deffinetly an obsession at one time. I just can't believe that I have falling in love with a person that seems to have absolutely no interest in having sex with someone they love. And if this is just how he is, do I really have to let someone go based on simply who they are in the bedroom.?
January 16, 2011 - 6:39pmThis Comment
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