I'm a guy and I am in the same situation, should I assume my girlfriend is cheating on me because she only wants sex once or twice a month? In my experience it is normal for women to cheat on their boyfriends, not just from personal experience but through my guy friends as well(I don't have male friends who fit the typical "all guys cheat" trait, maybe I am an alien).
Anyways, only thing I can assume is it comes down to self-esteem issues, I know a lot of guys can be very sensitive to their girlfriends during sex, "Does it feel good for her? Is she enjoying it?", these thoughts can discourage guys from having sex as often as in the beginning. Guys won't always believe the girls when they say they enjoy the sex, especially when with a partner who tends to be quieter then the average person during sex.
Another thing that can discourage guys from having sex on a consistent basis with their partners is when there is a lack of experimentation, and I don't mean super kinky stuff, just trying new positions or lighter things, the reason being if the sex is as enjoyable as the partner says why is nothing new being tried because isn't that a part of the enjoyment between two people?
Anyways, it is not always the case that the guy doesn't find his partner attractive anymore, is cheating on them, or the guy himself has low self-esteem. Guy's can be discouraged from having sex with their partners when they feel they aren't getting a positive enough response, they will feel like they are not good enough and so abstain from sex thinking that is what their partner wants.
It doesn't hurt to get on top, be a bit more aggressive, take what you want when you really want it, try new positions, dress up, or be a little more vocal, it WILL encourage your man, guaranteed.
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I'm a guy and I am in the same situation, should I assume my girlfriend is cheating on me because she only wants sex once or twice a month? In my experience it is normal for women to cheat on their boyfriends, not just from personal experience but through my guy friends as well(I don't have male friends who fit the typical "all guys cheat" trait, maybe I am an alien).
Anyways, only thing I can assume is it comes down to self-esteem issues, I know a lot of guys can be very sensitive to their girlfriends during sex, "Does it feel good for her? Is she enjoying it?", these thoughts can discourage guys from having sex as often as in the beginning. Guys won't always believe the girls when they say they enjoy the sex, especially when with a partner who tends to be quieter then the average person during sex.
Another thing that can discourage guys from having sex on a consistent basis with their partners is when there is a lack of experimentation, and I don't mean super kinky stuff, just trying new positions or lighter things, the reason being if the sex is as enjoyable as the partner says why is nothing new being tried because isn't that a part of the enjoyment between two people?
Anyways, it is not always the case that the guy doesn't find his partner attractive anymore, is cheating on them, or the guy himself has low self-esteem. Guy's can be discouraged from having sex with their partners when they feel they aren't getting a positive enough response, they will feel like they are not good enough and so abstain from sex thinking that is what their partner wants.
It doesn't hurt to get on top, be a bit more aggressive, take what you want when you really want it, try new positions, dress up, or be a little more vocal, it WILL encourage your man, guaranteed.
February 5, 2011 - 2:44pmThis Comment
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