I think that all men are different. I know that my boyfriend loves me, I have never doubted this. But we haven't been having sex lately...At first I thought maybe he was feeling bad that I was always having him make the move, so I decided to jump him, he denied me. Needless to say this led to a lot of crying and talking.
He is really stressed out at work and he hasn't had any time to spend with me for the past month or so. I had made a comment before we got back together that our relationship had been "just sex" so now he feels guilty having sex with me when he doesn't have time to spend with me during the day.
It's a really hard situation to deal with. Honestly, I don't need sex. I am fine without it. But I do need to feel like he wants to be with me. You just have to find a way to cope until he's through with his issues. Find other ways to feel needed and loved.
I would say to everyone having this issue that if you really do love your man, believe him first, don't accuse him. And look inside and see if you said or did something to change the situation. Men do listen more than we like to notice. And if you have said something about sex to make him feel guilty, then maybe you should address it.
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I think it is understandable for this man to not want to have sex with his girlfriend when he is not physically attracted to her. Men and women are different sexually. Women don't need to be physically attracted to have sex with someone they love. But men do. And I think it was very strong of him to admit to the reason why. But I also think that he should talk to his girlfriend because she's probably feeling the same way that we all are. I'm sure she will be willing to put forth the effort to better herself for you. If you suggested a diet or workout plan, do it with her so she doesn't feel alone in the whole thing.
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I think that all men are different. I know that my boyfriend loves me, I have never doubted this. But we haven't been having sex lately...At first I thought maybe he was feeling bad that I was always having him make the move, so I decided to jump him, he denied me. Needless to say this led to a lot of crying and talking.
He is really stressed out at work and he hasn't had any time to spend with me for the past month or so. I had made a comment before we got back together that our relationship had been "just sex" so now he feels guilty having sex with me when he doesn't have time to spend with me during the day.
It's a really hard situation to deal with. Honestly, I don't need sex. I am fine without it. But I do need to feel like he wants to be with me. You just have to find a way to cope until he's through with his issues. Find other ways to feel needed and loved.
I would say to everyone having this issue that if you really do love your man, believe him first, don't accuse him. And look inside and see if you said or did something to change the situation. Men do listen more than we like to notice. And if you have said something about sex to make him feel guilty, then maybe you should address it.
P.S.
I think it is understandable for this man to not want to have sex with his girlfriend when he is not physically attracted to her. Men and women are different sexually. Women don't need to be physically attracted to have sex with someone they love. But men do. And I think it was very strong of him to admit to the reason why. But I also think that he should talk to his girlfriend because she's probably feeling the same way that we all are. I'm sure she will be willing to put forth the effort to better herself for you. If you suggested a diet or workout plan, do it with her so she doesn't feel alone in the whole thing.
Goodluck <3
March 9, 2011 - 10:48amThis Comment
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