I just don't understand how relationships start off so good and then it comes to bs like this. When there is love, and I mean real love, then you and your partner should be able to work any obstacles out including sex. I completely understand if there are physical ailments involved and he can't get aroused or perform to par but when all other possibilities have been eliminated then that is when us females turn to our last option....he's cheating. Although he may not be cheating thats all we have. And then men can't understand why we get so upset and depressed and feel inadequate/unattractive. Men, this is why. I'm not trying to point the finger at the male species but I've heard too many men ask me why females are so sensitive. Well, this is a huge reason why. The relationship starts out so good. You're both all over eachother and you laugh all the time and its just good. Then you start to get more and more serious and its almost like something clicks and says "okay, you got her, you can stop trying so hard". And then the flirting and playfulness subsides, the amount of sex decreases, you get more and more comfortable and start to almost live like you're single again. So the female is sitting there thinking what has happened, how come he's not all over me anymore, how come we don't do things together anymore,etc. So when us females do ask whats the problem men hear it as "what is wrong with you". Well, obviously there isn't anything wrong because its just the change that has taken place over a certain period of time. So men really can't give us women that particular answer. And we are left wondering and then the wheels in our minds start turning. So hopefully this makes for a better understanding. Even when there is love involved or not, there is no excuse to stay in an unhappy relationship. NO EXCUSE. Men or women...its your life so take control of it. Don't let someone else drag you down. Sometimes we need to listen to our minds more than our hearts because there may be one too many callouses on our heart.
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I just don't understand how relationships start off so good and then it comes to bs like this. When there is love, and I mean real love, then you and your partner should be able to work any obstacles out including sex. I completely understand if there are physical ailments involved and he can't get aroused or perform to par but when all other possibilities have been eliminated then that is when us females turn to our last option....he's cheating. Although he may not be cheating thats all we have. And then men can't understand why we get so upset and depressed and feel inadequate/unattractive. Men, this is why. I'm not trying to point the finger at the male species but I've heard too many men ask me why females are so sensitive. Well, this is a huge reason why. The relationship starts out so good. You're both all over eachother and you laugh all the time and its just good. Then you start to get more and more serious and its almost like something clicks and says "okay, you got her, you can stop trying so hard". And then the flirting and playfulness subsides, the amount of sex decreases, you get more and more comfortable and start to almost live like you're single again. So the female is sitting there thinking what has happened, how come he's not all over me anymore, how come we don't do things together anymore,etc. So when us females do ask whats the problem men hear it as "what is wrong with you". Well, obviously there isn't anything wrong because its just the change that has taken place over a certain period of time. So men really can't give us women that particular answer. And we are left wondering and then the wheels in our minds start turning. So hopefully this makes for a better understanding. Even when there is love involved or not, there is no excuse to stay in an unhappy relationship. NO EXCUSE. Men or women...its your life so take control of it. Don't let someone else drag you down. Sometimes we need to listen to our minds more than our hearts because there may be one too many callouses on our heart.
March 11, 2011 - 8:03amThis Comment
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