I know this topic is old but for those still coming accross it I would like to give you a mans perspective, below is an excerpt from a letter I wrote my fiance' to make her understand the situation better.
Hope this helps in shedding some light
" Me not being intimate with you is a combination of factors:
1. I have to like you to be intimate with you, when we fight, i don't like you, it takes us a week to recover from one of our fights, we fight -2 days, we say nohting to each other -1 day, we apologize -1 day, we warm up to each other -2days, by then six days have gone by and a whole bunch of other factors come into play
2. tiredness - I started a new job this year and I'm not past my 3 month probation period at work yet so i don't know if i'll have a job next month, I've been working really hard to ensure they employ me full time so i'm tired in the evenings when we get home
Plus i'm trying everything I can to make more money with this internet marketing thing so that we can be finacially secure when baba arrives so that takes it out of me as well.
3. Stress - I'm going to be a first time father in less than four months from now, I don't know what to expect and it freaks me out.
4. I havent had any form of exercise for almost 5 months, when we used to play paintball we where having sex more often, hence you falling pregnant, and exercise is key in upping the sex drive.
5. The Zyban i was taking to try to stop smoking is also known to mess with your hormones and decrease your sex drive, I'm off it now but it will take a while for my body to restore its hormonal balance.
I love you very much and think you are absolutely gorgeous, beautifull and extremely sexy, even more so now that you are pregnant, you are more beautiful to me every day, I want to marry you and spend the rest of our lives together but please understand that I have a lot happening in my life right now."
Well that was the letter I sent her, I;m sure if you sit down with him without your frustration getting the better of you and actually listengin to him you guys can work it out.
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I know this topic is old but for those still coming accross it I would like to give you a mans perspective, below is an excerpt from a letter I wrote my fiance' to make her understand the situation better.
Hope this helps in shedding some light
" Me not being intimate with you is a combination of factors:
1. I have to like you to be intimate with you, when we fight, i don't like you, it takes us a week to recover from one of our fights, we fight -2 days, we say nohting to each other -1 day, we apologize -1 day, we warm up to each other -2days, by then six days have gone by and a whole bunch of other factors come into play
2. tiredness - I started a new job this year and I'm not past my 3 month probation period at work yet so i don't know if i'll have a job next month, I've been working really hard to ensure they employ me full time so i'm tired in the evenings when we get home
Plus i'm trying everything I can to make more money with this internet marketing thing so that we can be finacially secure when baba arrives so that takes it out of me as well.
3. Stress - I'm going to be a first time father in less than four months from now, I don't know what to expect and it freaks me out.
4. I havent had any form of exercise for almost 5 months, when we used to play paintball we where having sex more often, hence you falling pregnant, and exercise is key in upping the sex drive.
5. The Zyban i was taking to try to stop smoking is also known to mess with your hormones and decrease your sex drive, I'm off it now but it will take a while for my body to restore its hormonal balance.
I love you very much and think you are absolutely gorgeous, beautifull and extremely sexy, even more so now that you are pregnant, you are more beautiful to me every day, I want to marry you and spend the rest of our lives together but please understand that I have a lot happening in my life right now."
Well that was the letter I sent her, I;m sure if you sit down with him without your frustration getting the better of you and actually listengin to him you guys can work it out.
All the best
- Dwain
March 17, 2011 - 12:01amhttp://www.todaylearnhowto.com/blogs/have-great-relationships
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