I agree with some of your thoughts. I do believe that a man has the ability to be with one woman while not being completely feral [kill others]. I also liked your comment about the government, that seems to be very true ;)
I wasn't trying to say that men are too animal like to be faithful. I was just making the point that our psychological self might not do well in a monogamous relationship. Just because someone is unfaithful doesn't mean that they don't truly love their girlfriend/boyfriend. I am all about one person at a time for relationships. I am just saying that someone who started off being sexually active with their partner. I believe the woman said it was multiple times a day to never could mean their animal self is no longer into it. They could still love the person, but they do not want to be sexual with that person.
A relationship doesn't have to be perfect. I am very aware that relationships take work. I am just trying to bring light or freedom to an individual who is being hurt by her boyfriend/lovers lack of action. If anyone is in a relationship where the sex has dried up, I truly believe that their relationship is doomed. Unless both people can except that fact and continue to be healthy and loving towards one another.
If one person is wanting more physicality and the other is not, then the relationships balance is off. No one should have to change for their partner, they should change because they truly desire to. Otherwise it can lead to resentment, anger and ultimately unhappiness.
So to the women who originally posted this story. Hopefully your situation has worked itself out for the best (2009). I wish I could have seen this when you first posted it. If your man is no longer into sex after starting off so frequently then my advise would be to move on. If it is really important to you to have that intimacy then you will need to find it somewhere else. If you can except the fact that you are not going to have sex often then stay and be happy. If you need more intimacy then don't torture yourself and him, it will only lead to more problems.
For guys who are in relationships where they are not fulfilling their lovers needs.. Communicate and talk about what each of your needs are and if you truly want to, find a solution to the issue. If you can't do that then do what is right and set that person free!
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I agree with some of your thoughts. I do believe that a man has the ability to be with one woman while not being completely feral [kill others]. I also liked your comment about the government, that seems to be very true ;)
I wasn't trying to say that men are too animal like to be faithful. I was just making the point that our psychological self might not do well in a monogamous relationship. Just because someone is unfaithful doesn't mean that they don't truly love their girlfriend/boyfriend. I am all about one person at a time for relationships. I am just saying that someone who started off being sexually active with their partner. I believe the woman said it was multiple times a day to never could mean their animal self is no longer into it. They could still love the person, but they do not want to be sexual with that person.
A relationship doesn't have to be perfect. I am very aware that relationships take work. I am just trying to bring light or freedom to an individual who is being hurt by her boyfriend/lovers lack of action. If anyone is in a relationship where the sex has dried up, I truly believe that their relationship is doomed. Unless both people can except that fact and continue to be healthy and loving towards one another.
If one person is wanting more physicality and the other is not, then the relationships balance is off. No one should have to change for their partner, they should change because they truly desire to. Otherwise it can lead to resentment, anger and ultimately unhappiness.
So to the women who originally posted this story. Hopefully your situation has worked itself out for the best (2009). I wish I could have seen this when you first posted it. If your man is no longer into sex after starting off so frequently then my advise would be to move on. If it is really important to you to have that intimacy then you will need to find it somewhere else. If you can except the fact that you are not going to have sex often then stay and be happy. If you need more intimacy then don't torture yourself and him, it will only lead to more problems.
For guys who are in relationships where they are not fulfilling their lovers needs.. Communicate and talk about what each of your needs are and if you truly want to, find a solution to the issue. If you can't do that then do what is right and set that person free!
March 17, 2011 - 6:16amThis Comment
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