hi joanna, this is isabella. as you know, i have a lot of respect for your work. i wonder about two things here:
you say that boundary violations is the number one "theme". are you implying that boundary violations are the cause? or was boundary violations simply something that you wanted to focus on for the purpose of this article?
the other thing is that you refer to the person with eating disorders as "she". this goes a bit with what alysiak said. granted, more woman than men have eating disorders but i think the fact that men suffer from them as well needs to be discussed more often. remember when there used to be this idea that only women had experienced childhood sexual abuse? it makes it so hard for men to come to terms with these things when there is an implication that they don't count. i'm sure you didn't want to imply that.
having said all this, i think it's important for all of us parents to look the fact in the eye that sometimes our behaviour, or our lack of doing something, CAN have serious consequences for our children. as you said, it's not a popular thing in parents boards to talk about.
we ALL need to heal. and we all CAN heal. how can we help BOTH parents and their children to do that?
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hi joanna, this is isabella. as you know, i have a lot of respect for your work. i wonder about two things here:
you say that boundary violations is the number one "theme". are you implying that boundary violations are the cause? or was boundary violations simply something that you wanted to focus on for the purpose of this article?
the other thing is that you refer to the person with eating disorders as "she". this goes a bit with what alysiak said. granted, more woman than men have eating disorders but i think the fact that men suffer from them as well needs to be discussed more often. remember when there used to be this idea that only women had experienced childhood sexual abuse? it makes it so hard for men to come to terms with these things when there is an implication that they don't count. i'm sure you didn't want to imply that.
having said all this, i think it's important for all of us parents to look the fact in the eye that sometimes our behaviour, or our lack of doing something, CAN have serious consequences for our children. as you said, it's not a popular thing in parents boards to talk about.
we ALL need to heal. and we all CAN heal. how can we help BOTH parents and their children to do that?
June 7, 2009 - 4:03pmThis Comment
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