"When others deny her privacy, read her diary, borrow or take her things without permission, or use their ideas or goals or personalities to overwhelm her efforts in school or sports, that is a violation of her boundaries.
When others disregard or disdain her choices or deny her any control over her personal life, clothes, food, friends, and activities, they are invading her boundaries."
Seriously? These examples are hardly abusive or extreme. Honestly, it's insulting to suggest that reading your kid's diary is a serious "boundary violation" that is going to damage her psyche. My mother did things that were MUCH worse. And what's wrong with exerting some "control" over your kid? That's what parents are supposed to do.
Have you ever taken an anthropology class? That is one problem I have with people in the mental health profession. They are sometimes clueless about different cultures and beliefs.
I strongly believe that ABUSIVE parents CAN trigger eating disorders. However, I don't believe that parents can cause eating disorders simply by being too "controlling", whatever that's supposed to mean.
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"When others deny her privacy, read her diary, borrow or take her things without permission, or use their ideas or goals or personalities to overwhelm her efforts in school or sports, that is a violation of her boundaries.
When others disregard or disdain her choices or deny her any control over her personal life, clothes, food, friends, and activities, they are invading her boundaries."
Seriously? These examples are hardly abusive or extreme. Honestly, it's insulting to suggest that reading your kid's diary is a serious "boundary violation" that is going to damage her psyche. My mother did things that were MUCH worse. And what's wrong with exerting some "control" over your kid? That's what parents are supposed to do.
Have you ever taken an anthropology class? That is one problem I have with people in the mental health profession. They are sometimes clueless about different cultures and beliefs.
I strongly believe that ABUSIVE parents CAN trigger eating disorders. However, I don't believe that parents can cause eating disorders simply by being too "controlling", whatever that's supposed to mean.
ja
June 8, 2009 - 8:39pmThis Comment
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