Is there someone you can talk to on your condo board? Someone who knows you, perhaps, since you have lived there for a while with no previous complaints? Is there anyone there who you feel would be sympathetic to what you're going through?
It seems to me that the first thing you need to do is to get this problem on the record in your words. Can you write a letter to the board explaining that you feel harassed and in danger due to the actions of another tenant? Telling them in detail, for instance, the things she says to you when she approaches you?
Is there anything in your condo association's rules about harassing another tenant?
Has she ever done anything besides yelling that makes you think she may be violent?
Do you know the neighbors who might live on either side of her? Might they support you or be experiencing something similar?
Could you ask a member of the condo board (or the entire mediation group, for that matter) to be in her apartment while you do things like walk across the floor, turn water on an off, turn the television on to normal volume? In order to judge for themselves and to help them tell her that that level of noise is acceptable? (I realize that won't stop her later from saying you got even louder, but I'm also looking for ways to get the condo board to understand what you're going through.)
I think if I were you, every time she approaches you angrily, yells at you out the window, or says something to you that I would write it down exactly and get the condo board to keep it in my file, so they have a record of the fact that this woman is, indeed, acting in a harassing manner. Is there any possibility of this?
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Meg29,
Wow. This is a really difficult situation.
Is there someone you can talk to on your condo board? Someone who knows you, perhaps, since you have lived there for a while with no previous complaints? Is there anyone there who you feel would be sympathetic to what you're going through?
It seems to me that the first thing you need to do is to get this problem on the record in your words. Can you write a letter to the board explaining that you feel harassed and in danger due to the actions of another tenant? Telling them in detail, for instance, the things she says to you when she approaches you?
Is there anything in your condo association's rules about harassing another tenant?
Has she ever done anything besides yelling that makes you think she may be violent?
Do you know the neighbors who might live on either side of her? Might they support you or be experiencing something similar?
Could you ask a member of the condo board (or the entire mediation group, for that matter) to be in her apartment while you do things like walk across the floor, turn water on an off, turn the television on to normal volume? In order to judge for themselves and to help them tell her that that level of noise is acceptable? (I realize that won't stop her later from saying you got even louder, but I'm also looking for ways to get the condo board to understand what you're going through.)
I think if I were you, every time she approaches you angrily, yells at you out the window, or says something to you that I would write it down exactly and get the condo board to keep it in my file, so they have a record of the fact that this woman is, indeed, acting in a harassing manner. Is there any possibility of this?
May 20, 2010 - 9:17amThis Comment
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