Ok, many years back when her own mother was failing she was there for her and at times apparently seemed mean as her own mother was fading so her children (my ex-husband and sister-in-law) felt as though she was the cause of her mother's illness, it was actually her diabetes that was killing her, anyway, it started from there and have since lost all communications with her. She treats my daughters' as if they were her own grandchildren and my son is her "real" grandson, however, her daughter has a son that doesn't know who she is...her one sister and two brothers do not really speak to her much either, not even any little bit of help. She drives herself to doctor appointments, the store, etc. and doesn't ask for much help, though we have helped her on ocassion when asked...she just likes us to visit so she can see the kids. We all went to the hospital over Mother's Day for a visit as she had to have her stomach drained, this happens often, as fluid leaks into her stomach and swells it and sheh as to have quarts taken from her stomach...as well as, major swelling in her legs where they become very "hard". She has blotches on her face (veins showing through), the doctor wants her to go into the city to be looked at for a possible liver transplant but she feels she wouldn't make it through. She has GASTROITIS so perhaps that is why she can't keep anything down. She doesn't seem depressed, persae, just extremely weak...there have just been times where I thought we would loose her and she has kept strong. She is in and out of the hosptial often and without having someone there with her to really hear the doctors, it's such a myster as to what is going on...I know it's different for everyone, I was just hoping for some sort of sign to know what stage she is in and how best I can be of help. My husband and I love her dearly and wish we could make this all go away for her, reality...we know we can't. Thank you for your support.
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Ok, many years back when her own mother was failing she was there for her and at times apparently seemed mean as her own mother was fading so her children (my ex-husband and sister-in-law) felt as though she was the cause of her mother's illness, it was actually her diabetes that was killing her, anyway, it started from there and have since lost all communications with her. She treats my daughters' as if they were her own grandchildren and my son is her "real" grandson, however, her daughter has a son that doesn't know who she is...her one sister and two brothers do not really speak to her much either, not even any little bit of help. She drives herself to doctor appointments, the store, etc. and doesn't ask for much help, though we have helped her on ocassion when asked...she just likes us to visit so she can see the kids. We all went to the hospital over Mother's Day for a visit as she had to have her stomach drained, this happens often, as fluid leaks into her stomach and swells it and sheh as to have quarts taken from her stomach...as well as, major swelling in her legs where they become very "hard". She has blotches on her face (veins showing through), the doctor wants her to go into the city to be looked at for a possible liver transplant but she feels she wouldn't make it through. She has GASTROITIS so perhaps that is why she can't keep anything down. She doesn't seem depressed, persae, just extremely weak...there have just been times where I thought we would loose her and she has kept strong. She is in and out of the hosptial often and without having someone there with her to really hear the doctors, it's such a myster as to what is going on...I know it's different for everyone, I was just hoping for some sort of sign to know what stage she is in and how best I can be of help. My husband and I love her dearly and wish we could make this all go away for her, reality...we know we can't. Thank you for your support.
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