I am sorry that you are feeling this way regarding your boyfriend. I was going to suggest him going to his doctor to get his thyroid checked--in case that might be the reason for his low sex drive. But then you mentioned that his mom thinks he may have a fear of being hurt again which may very well be the case. I know you say that it hurts you that he watches celebrities online and talks about boobies and your feelings are completely valid--most, if not all, women would feel the same. But is it possible that maybe he IS afraid of being hurt and can gaze at these Hollywood women all day because they cannot possibly hurt him?
I think when his family makes comments like "he doesn't want to get hurt" there is sometimes some credibility to it because they have witnessed things that we haven't and sometimes have a little more insight into our significant others that can help us in our relationships.
Have a good talk with him, expose your feelings, and let him know that it is affecting you in many ways. He may or may not open up-- this is the difficult thing about some men. If he does, perhaps suggesting couples therapy can save your relationship and make BOTH of you fall into place into where your relationship as a whole is going.
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Dear Mystic,
I am sorry that you are feeling this way regarding your boyfriend. I was going to suggest him going to his doctor to get his thyroid checked--in case that might be the reason for his low sex drive. But then you mentioned that his mom thinks he may have a fear of being hurt again which may very well be the case. I know you say that it hurts you that he watches celebrities online and talks about boobies and your feelings are completely valid--most, if not all, women would feel the same. But is it possible that maybe he IS afraid of being hurt and can gaze at these Hollywood women all day because they cannot possibly hurt him?
I think when his family makes comments like "he doesn't want to get hurt" there is sometimes some credibility to it because they have witnessed things that we haven't and sometimes have a little more insight into our significant others that can help us in our relationships.
Have a good talk with him, expose your feelings, and let him know that it is affecting you in many ways. He may or may not open up-- this is the difficult thing about some men. If he does, perhaps suggesting couples therapy can save your relationship and make BOTH of you fall into place into where your relationship as a whole is going.
Good Luck!
July 17, 2009 - 6:01amThis Comment
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