Being upfront about it will certainly be beneficial. You don’t want to ‘dance around the issue’. It seems like the two week (anti-sex) times are hard for him for some reason. Maybe you should try and talk to him when he is open to the idea and he doesn’t feel uncomfortable.
There is a way to be tactful without being pushy. Tell him you would really like to talk about it and then tell him to let you know when it is a good time. It may be the approach or bad timing when you try to talk. I know a lot of men tend to feel pressured into talking when they don’t want to. Tell him to come to you when he is prepared.
Try to stay away from blaming it on him. Pointing fingers tends to make people feel like they need to defend themselves. Tell him how much you are enjoying your new sex life and want to how you want to make both of you happy without pressuring him. It appears that he engages the sex when you do have sex, maybe that’s just what he prefers. Men love their egos.
I hope this helps. Be sure to let us know how it goes. We would love for you to keep us updated as well as give others pointers on how you resolved this issue. Good Luck!
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Being upfront about it will certainly be beneficial. You don’t want to ‘dance around the issue’. It seems like the two week (anti-sex) times are hard for him for some reason. Maybe you should try and talk to him when he is open to the idea and he doesn’t feel uncomfortable.
July 18, 2009 - 10:54amThere is a way to be tactful without being pushy. Tell him you would really like to talk about it and then tell him to let you know when it is a good time. It may be the approach or bad timing when you try to talk. I know a lot of men tend to feel pressured into talking when they don’t want to. Tell him to come to you when he is prepared.
Try to stay away from blaming it on him. Pointing fingers tends to make people feel like they need to defend themselves. Tell him how much you are enjoying your new sex life and want to how you want to make both of you happy without pressuring him. It appears that he engages the sex when you do have sex, maybe that’s just what he prefers. Men love their egos.
I hope this helps. Be sure to let us know how it goes. We would love for you to keep us updated as well as give others pointers on how you resolved this issue. Good Luck!
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