Thanks for the suggestion an I didn't take offense at all. I certainly understand where you are coming from however I'm pretty positive that's not it. As I said earlier, it's what he says that bothers me more than what he does. Most of the time he has no problem letting me see/touch him, even during these phases. (he's an 18 year old boy, I don't blame him haha) so, that beig said, it's not that he doesn't want me to be intimate with him during these times, he just says that.
Speaking of which, I should update you all on our conversation last night (face to face). Basically I told him I was confused about why his words didn't match his actions and why he keeps saying he doesn't want to have sex anymore. (I was interpreted what he had been saying wrong, he has absolutly no problem with oral at any time, he just doesn't want to have sex). His reason for this was that he isn't ready for an adult relationship because we are young and he doesn't want to hurt me in case anything happens with our relationship. I told him that I completely understand and I won't pressure him but if we get to the point where we feel something is going to happen, we don't need to go out of our way to stop it. I also told him that the emotional stuff (which he also said was a reason why we should not have sex) would be pretty bad if we broke up whether we have sex or not. So I think the whole situation is solved. I told him also that I will try to stop bring up sex in conversations.
I want to thank everyone for your advice. I don't think it would have been this easy without your all's help!
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Thanks for the suggestion an I didn't take offense at all. I certainly understand where you are coming from however I'm pretty positive that's not it. As I said earlier, it's what he says that bothers me more than what he does. Most of the time he has no problem letting me see/touch him, even during these phases. (he's an 18 year old boy, I don't blame him haha) so, that beig said, it's not that he doesn't want me to be intimate with him during these times, he just says that.
July 19, 2009 - 4:56pmSpeaking of which, I should update you all on our conversation last night (face to face). Basically I told him I was confused about why his words didn't match his actions and why he keeps saying he doesn't want to have sex anymore. (I was interpreted what he had been saying wrong, he has absolutly no problem with oral at any time, he just doesn't want to have sex). His reason for this was that he isn't ready for an adult relationship because we are young and he doesn't want to hurt me in case anything happens with our relationship. I told him that I completely understand and I won't pressure him but if we get to the point where we feel something is going to happen, we don't need to go out of our way to stop it. I also told him that the emotional stuff (which he also said was a reason why we should not have sex) would be pretty bad if we broke up whether we have sex or not. So I think the whole situation is solved. I told him also that I will try to stop bring up sex in conversations.
I want to thank everyone for your advice. I don't think it would have been this easy without your all's help!
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