Ok, did you ever watch Sex and the City? If not, or even if you did on the occasion... and haven't watched many of them... you should go rent them a couple of boxes at a time. Start with series 1 and go up.
The reason I am saying that is because a lot of it (specifically Carrie's character) teaches women some good principles for women in and out of relationships, how to still be true to yourself. You'll know what I mean as you watch them. I'm not referring to their "activities" but more their guidelines for tuning in to YOURSELF.
You don't have to take this advice, as I said before... you do what you feel is best for you. But I feel like it is important (certainly at your age) to make sure to learn to be in love without losing yourself. Have your own interests that are separate from the relationship. I'm not saying that you have to keep it private or secret or anything like that at all. But something that you do for you! Make plans at least once every couple of weeks, when he is available to you, to go to dinner and a movie with a girlfriend. Or go shopping, a ball game if you like sports, whatever... and just tell him a day or so before that you are gonna go do that. I think it is good to have some time that is separate from your circle and each other. It builds strength and exerts some independence, which is healthy.
You can't bank on what the future would hold... and it's important to be in tune with yourself.
If he makes plans, great... tell him, you guys can hook up later that night or day or the next day, whatever.
Besides... guys like you to be a bit mysterious to boot! :-)
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Ok, did you ever watch Sex and the City? If not, or even if you did on the occasion... and haven't watched many of them... you should go rent them a couple of boxes at a time. Start with series 1 and go up.
The reason I am saying that is because a lot of it (specifically Carrie's character) teaches women some good principles for women in and out of relationships, how to still be true to yourself. You'll know what I mean as you watch them. I'm not referring to their "activities" but more their guidelines for tuning in to YOURSELF.
You don't have to take this advice, as I said before... you do what you feel is best for you. But I feel like it is important (certainly at your age) to make sure to learn to be in love without losing yourself. Have your own interests that are separate from the relationship. I'm not saying that you have to keep it private or secret or anything like that at all. But something that you do for you! Make plans at least once every couple of weeks, when he is available to you, to go to dinner and a movie with a girlfriend. Or go shopping, a ball game if you like sports, whatever... and just tell him a day or so before that you are gonna go do that. I think it is good to have some time that is separate from your circle and each other. It builds strength and exerts some independence, which is healthy.
July 20, 2009 - 7:01pmYou can't bank on what the future would hold... and it's important to be in tune with yourself.
If he makes plans, great... tell him, you guys can hook up later that night or day or the next day, whatever.
Besides... guys like you to be a bit mysterious to boot! :-)
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