HI there! The same thing has been happening to me. My guy is 31 and I am 38. It is sooo frustrating with the whole erection thing. And it's hard to feel like it's not you and it's even harder not to say anyhting at al- like what the hell? I know men don't like to be pressured but it's easy for us to feel insecure when our man can't get an erection. I know with my b-f, he is a very anxious person with a bazillion things on his mind and he finds it hard to relax. I have been trying to spend more time doing things I enjoy, like going to the gym, the bookstore, or a bike ride- anything so he can have time to himself. A friend of mine thought that we were prob spending too much time together, and that us doing our own independent things would help improve things. He has been more affectionate since, but not too much different in the sex dept.. Doing things on my own though has helped me to feel more independent and good about myself. That helps so much. Maybe your man has a lot on his mind with finances, a baby, an upcoming wedding/proposal and he just isn't thinking love and intimacy. I'm sure he will come around soon. Women and men are so different when it comes to emotions. Good luck!
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HI there! The same thing has been happening to me. My guy is 31 and I am 38. It is sooo frustrating with the whole erection thing. And it's hard to feel like it's not you and it's even harder not to say anyhting at al- like what the hell? I know men don't like to be pressured but it's easy for us to feel insecure when our man can't get an erection. I know with my b-f, he is a very anxious person with a bazillion things on his mind and he finds it hard to relax. I have been trying to spend more time doing things I enjoy, like going to the gym, the bookstore, or a bike ride- anything so he can have time to himself. A friend of mine thought that we were prob spending too much time together, and that us doing our own independent things would help improve things. He has been more affectionate since, but not too much different in the sex dept.. Doing things on my own though has helped me to feel more independent and good about myself. That helps so much. Maybe your man has a lot on his mind with finances, a baby, an upcoming wedding/proposal and he just isn't thinking love and intimacy. I'm sure he will come around soon. Women and men are so different when it comes to emotions. Good luck!
August 12, 2009 - 9:42pmThis Comment
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