Do you have any other social support? Do you have other new mom friends that you can talk to (who are probably going through the same thing)? Are you able to swap babysitting with any other trusted couple, so that you can each have a date night each week or each month that is free of babysitting charges? Do you have any family nearby that can offer some of their babysitting time in exchange for an extra homemade dinner or a car wash or something (or just fun baby time)?
Wow---you both work 6 days a week? I can not even imagine. Yes, you both sound very exhausted, overworked, overburdened, and no wonder there is no time or energy for physical intimacy. On your one day off per week, and any other family time you share in the evenings or mornings: can you find ways to relax, enjoy each other's company, giggle and play? Is there a way to make meals simple, so you can all go outside and walk together, even if for just 20 minutes? Can you and your fiance take time every day or evening to talk without interruption (and not all about how awful work was that day!). Just a few ideas to help bring some more peace and calm and family unity back into your daily life. I know my husband and I were only able to talk for 30 minutes at a time in the evening when we walked around the block, and our infant was in a stroller happily eating his cheerios and watching dogs and squirrels. :-) Even finding a walking friend who is a mom would be wonderful, too!
Take care---it is so difficult to be a mom, especially a new mom, with both parents working so many days every week. Take care of yourselves!
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Do you have any other social support? Do you have other new mom friends that you can talk to (who are probably going through the same thing)? Are you able to swap babysitting with any other trusted couple, so that you can each have a date night each week or each month that is free of babysitting charges? Do you have any family nearby that can offer some of their babysitting time in exchange for an extra homemade dinner or a car wash or something (or just fun baby time)?
Wow---you both work 6 days a week? I can not even imagine. Yes, you both sound very exhausted, overworked, overburdened, and no wonder there is no time or energy for physical intimacy. On your one day off per week, and any other family time you share in the evenings or mornings: can you find ways to relax, enjoy each other's company, giggle and play? Is there a way to make meals simple, so you can all go outside and walk together, even if for just 20 minutes? Can you and your fiance take time every day or evening to talk without interruption (and not all about how awful work was that day!). Just a few ideas to help bring some more peace and calm and family unity back into your daily life. I know my husband and I were only able to talk for 30 minutes at a time in the evening when we walked around the block, and our infant was in a stroller happily eating his cheerios and watching dogs and squirrels. :-) Even finding a walking friend who is a mom would be wonderful, too!
Take care---it is so difficult to be a mom, especially a new mom, with both parents working so many days every week. Take care of yourselves!
August 2, 2009 - 7:11pmThis Comment
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