I assume you are the same Anon whom Susan has been speaking with?
Your response "we have"...is this regarding having sex every-other day?
I agree with Susan--it can cause more stress to over-calculate (beyond just tracking, but then to over-analyze the tracking data), and only have sex once or twice during what you believe is your fertile period. Experts are actually recommending that couples trying to conceive have sex often throughout their cycle (whether you believe you are fertile or not), in order to increase your chances that you will have sex during a fertile time. And, Susan is right...the experts do say that if you are having sex "only" during your predicted fertile time, that these dates should include cycle days 10-20. I agree---it seems like day 15 is too late---but you never know! As long as you are enjoying the sex process (and it does not become a "duty" most of the time), and you have been trying for less than 12 months...try to stop analyzing so much and enjoy the process. When you do become pregnant...you'll be so glad you did!
Lastly, your last question "when will signs appear?" Unfortunately, the primary sign of pregnancy is a missed period. You would think that something as magical as conception would produce more symptoms, but it is not the case. Other early pregnancy signs are almost identical to pre-menstrual signs: sore breasts, acne, headache, fatigue, mood changes, lower back pain, cramps (and, this makes sense, as they are all hormone-related).
I said the same thing when we were trying to become pregnant ("I will be surprised this month if we're not!"), as we try so long NOT to become pregnant in our younger years, that the moment we're off birth control and having frequent unprotected sex...we think that we will instantly become pregnant! Or, at least in a month or two. It is amazing, as Susan said, there is "only" about a 20% chance of pregnancy each cycle (depending on age and other factors, of course). That is why it is VERY normal for couples to take up to 12 months to conceive.
We wish you the best, and let us know of any good news!
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I assume you are the same Anon whom Susan has been speaking with?
Your response "we have"...is this regarding having sex every-other day?
I agree with Susan--it can cause more stress to over-calculate (beyond just tracking, but then to over-analyze the tracking data), and only have sex once or twice during what you believe is your fertile period. Experts are actually recommending that couples trying to conceive have sex often throughout their cycle (whether you believe you are fertile or not), in order to increase your chances that you will have sex during a fertile time. And, Susan is right...the experts do say that if you are having sex "only" during your predicted fertile time, that these dates should include cycle days 10-20. I agree---it seems like day 15 is too late---but you never know! As long as you are enjoying the sex process (and it does not become a "duty" most of the time), and you have been trying for less than 12 months...try to stop analyzing so much and enjoy the process. When you do become pregnant...you'll be so glad you did!
Lastly, your last question "when will signs appear?" Unfortunately, the primary sign of pregnancy is a missed period. You would think that something as magical as conception would produce more symptoms, but it is not the case. Other early pregnancy signs are almost identical to pre-menstrual signs: sore breasts, acne, headache, fatigue, mood changes, lower back pain, cramps (and, this makes sense, as they are all hormone-related).
I said the same thing when we were trying to become pregnant ("I will be surprised this month if we're not!"), as we try so long NOT to become pregnant in our younger years, that the moment we're off birth control and having frequent unprotected sex...we think that we will instantly become pregnant! Or, at least in a month or two. It is amazing, as Susan said, there is "only" about a 20% chance of pregnancy each cycle (depending on age and other factors, of course). That is why it is VERY normal for couples to take up to 12 months to conceive.
We wish you the best, and let us know of any good news!
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