Interestingly enough, a colleague at work and I had a discussion on this subject, just today! There's a person in our office who is passive/aggressive and very challenging to work with. I called him "reactionary," and she called his behavior "dog with bone in face."
It's probably easier to deal with this type of personality in the workplace than at home. At work, I can confront and document. But, in a personal relationship, confrontation can turn into an ugly situation. Nonetheless, you need to be assertive, without being argumentative. You are not to blame for someone else's shortcomings or poor behavior toward you. The other person needs to learn that you will not be a doormat and that you will hold him/her accountable for what s/he says and does.
If you do not confront this person, you are, in effect, contributing to the perpetuity of the behavior. Don't. It's all a sad "game" with the other person to make you feel guilty for being you.
I'm no psychiatrist, just someone who has been there/done that.
I hope the following information will help you understand this personality disorder:
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Interestingly enough, a colleague at work and I had a discussion on this subject, just today! There's a person in our office who is passive/aggressive and very challenging to work with. I called him "reactionary," and she called his behavior "dog with bone in face."
It's probably easier to deal with this type of personality in the workplace than at home. At work, I can confront and document. But, in a personal relationship, confrontation can turn into an ugly situation. Nonetheless, you need to be assertive, without being argumentative. You are not to blame for someone else's shortcomings or poor behavior toward you. The other person needs to learn that you will not be a doormat and that you will hold him/her accountable for what s/he says and does.
If you do not confront this person, you are, in effect, contributing to the perpetuity of the behavior. Don't. It's all a sad "game" with the other person to make you feel guilty for being you.
I'm no psychiatrist, just someone who has been there/done that.
I hope the following information will help you understand this personality disorder:
Passive-Aggressive Personality Disorder
Let's pose this issue to one of our medical Experts for you. I hope we'll have a response ASAP.
August 14, 2009 - 4:58pmThis Comment
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