Thank you for your reply - it was very helpful! I do agree we need to have a good, open dialogue about this. He is a teacher and is just feeling like he is getting a handle on things and I understand why he would want to stay at his same school with the same grade - he would be able to build on all the work he's put into it. He would much rather do that than start over again. And I do wish he would just say that he doesn't want us to be apart again and that he will come with me. I am applying to schools specifically because they are near here, near family, and in places he's mentioned he'd like to live before. We've already done long-distance for 3 years and if this happened, that would mean at least another four. I really don't want that at all, so much so that I'd almost be willing to go to school in the city where we are now even though I might rather go somewhere else. But should I be doing something like that if he isn't willing to do the same? It is hard for me knowing that if I was in his position, I would be ok with moving for him. When does the time come that long-distance becomes out of the question, or is it ever?
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Diane,
Thank you for your reply - it was very helpful! I do agree we need to have a good, open dialogue about this. He is a teacher and is just feeling like he is getting a handle on things and I understand why he would want to stay at his same school with the same grade - he would be able to build on all the work he's put into it. He would much rather do that than start over again. And I do wish he would just say that he doesn't want us to be apart again and that he will come with me. I am applying to schools specifically because they are near here, near family, and in places he's mentioned he'd like to live before. We've already done long-distance for 3 years and if this happened, that would mean at least another four. I really don't want that at all, so much so that I'd almost be willing to go to school in the city where we are now even though I might rather go somewhere else. But should I be doing something like that if he isn't willing to do the same? It is hard for me knowing that if I was in his position, I would be ok with moving for him. When does the time come that long-distance becomes out of the question, or is it ever?
August 19, 2009 - 9:07amThis Comment
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