I am in the same situation and i would really love some help. Although, sadly, I feel very hopeless. I am 12 years older than my boyfriend. We started off as friends and we have a great time together. I love him and his personality. But the age difference weighs on me so deeply. He is just a few years older than my son and I sometimes feel like my boyfriend is more like one of my son's friends instead of my boyfriend. Not because they spend very much time together but because they understand each other and have more in common with each other than my boyfriend does with me. How could my boyfriend be a role model or a step father to a guy who is only a few years younger? Also, I see my age in our pictures when I'm standing next to him. I worry that his friends will say hurtful things about us and I feel judged for being with someone SO much younger. You may ask why I stay with him. He is so sweet and kind. He isnt hurtful or controlling like my former husband was. He treats me like his companion, not his property. We have a lot in common and I think we love each other's personalities. But we do have one more huge thing that is a hurdle. He loves kids and I have my tubes tied so I couldnt have any more even if I wanted to. I know he wants kids, and he loves playing with my neighbor's babies. I know he would make a great father. He says he doesnt need kids as long as he has me, but how long will that last? Especially as I get older? I worry that he will meet beautiful younger women at the college he attends or at his sales job where everyone is gorgeous, especially my boyfriend. And he will meet beautiful women who can have and probably want to have children. And I know Im far from gorgeous but I always hope to be loved for who I am and not just how I look. He is about a 9 and I am probably about a 2...maybe a 3... Even as I type this, I feel so bleak. I want to walk away because this hurts so much. But I also feel like he is the only person that has seen me as a gem when everyone else sees a rock, and he wants to be with me and doesnt want to let me go. I don't know what to do. I worry the longer we are together the worse this will hurt me when it does end. I appreciate any thoughts. Thank you in advance.
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I am in the same situation and i would really love some help. Although, sadly, I feel very hopeless. I am 12 years older than my boyfriend. We started off as friends and we have a great time together. I love him and his personality. But the age difference weighs on me so deeply. He is just a few years older than my son and I sometimes feel like my boyfriend is more like one of my son's friends instead of my boyfriend. Not because they spend very much time together but because they understand each other and have more in common with each other than my boyfriend does with me. How could my boyfriend be a role model or a step father to a guy who is only a few years younger? Also, I see my age in our pictures when I'm standing next to him. I worry that his friends will say hurtful things about us and I feel judged for being with someone SO much younger. You may ask why I stay with him. He is so sweet and kind. He isnt hurtful or controlling like my former husband was. He treats me like his companion, not his property. We have a lot in common and I think we love each other's personalities. But we do have one more huge thing that is a hurdle. He loves kids and I have my tubes tied so I couldnt have any more even if I wanted to. I know he wants kids, and he loves playing with my neighbor's babies. I know he would make a great father. He says he doesnt need kids as long as he has me, but how long will that last? Especially as I get older? I worry that he will meet beautiful younger women at the college he attends or at his sales job where everyone is gorgeous, especially my boyfriend. And he will meet beautiful women who can have and probably want to have children. And I know Im far from gorgeous but I always hope to be loved for who I am and not just how I look. He is about a 9 and I am probably about a 2...maybe a 3... Even as I type this, I feel so bleak. I want to walk away because this hurts so much. But I also feel like he is the only person that has seen me as a gem when everyone else sees a rock, and he wants to be with me and doesnt want to let me go. I don't know what to do. I worry the longer we are together the worse this will hurt me when it does end. I appreciate any thoughts. Thank you in advance.
August 22, 2012 - 3:45pmThis Comment
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