Hi everyone.
I just broke up with my bf because of the age difference. Although I look younger than my age.. He's almost 30 and I am 37. We were together for 5 months - but literally together, sleeping over almost every day. He treated me probably the best than any other man I dated. He loved me a lot, or at least he thought so.. He took care of me, took me out whenever he could, exhibited his affection always and everywhere. Age was never an issue, although I spoke to him regarding the fact that I don't want to waste years getting to know someone etc.. I want kids soon. I feel I don't have too much time. He wasn't scared. He told me that he has no problem with that and everything was great, besides the fact that he was a little immature in insignificant things, but which man really isn't? Until one day a colleague of his was a little drunk and asked him if I was older than him and added "why don't you like younger girls, they are cuter"!!! And then something struck me! I will have to go through this all the time..
I told him that we are probably not good for each other due to that fact in brief. I hurt him.. He spoke with his friends and they actually agreed that I was probably right! So now he told me that I insisted so much on that, that I persuaded him..
I had my thoughts on the future before, regarding my looking older and him wanting a younger girl at some point, we are women and we know how men are.. although he never let me think like that, it was my own insecurity.
In the beginning, he was chasing me, then I missed him too much. The fact that he changed his mind, isn't a good sign. Either he listens to other ppl too much or he's just hurt. Not sure. Time will tell.
Either way I feel terrible. It cost me more than i thought. If this actually ends here I will make every effort to never be with a younger guy again, although I attract them. As someone wrote before, its hard enough to build a good relationship, putting a 7 yr difference in can't make it easier. I do know a married couple with the same difference though. They've been together for years and now she's expecting her first child at 42.
I feel so lost with everything and sad. So much prejudice. Why does the woman always have to be younger? When and why was this established? Back in the day when women were not educated and didn't make a living and their sole purpose was to reproduce, cook and clean, so they married very young to older men. How nice.. Things have changed. I feel I was a coward.
These are my thoughts. Good luck to any woman in the same situation. All the best
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Hi everyone.
February 7, 2015 - 12:26amI just broke up with my bf because of the age difference. Although I look younger than my age.. He's almost 30 and I am 37. We were together for 5 months - but literally together, sleeping over almost every day. He treated me probably the best than any other man I dated. He loved me a lot, or at least he thought so.. He took care of me, took me out whenever he could, exhibited his affection always and everywhere. Age was never an issue, although I spoke to him regarding the fact that I don't want to waste years getting to know someone etc.. I want kids soon. I feel I don't have too much time. He wasn't scared. He told me that he has no problem with that and everything was great, besides the fact that he was a little immature in insignificant things, but which man really isn't? Until one day a colleague of his was a little drunk and asked him if I was older than him and added "why don't you like younger girls, they are cuter"!!! And then something struck me! I will have to go through this all the time..
I told him that we are probably not good for each other due to that fact in brief. I hurt him.. He spoke with his friends and they actually agreed that I was probably right! So now he told me that I insisted so much on that, that I persuaded him..
I had my thoughts on the future before, regarding my looking older and him wanting a younger girl at some point, we are women and we know how men are.. although he never let me think like that, it was my own insecurity.
In the beginning, he was chasing me, then I missed him too much. The fact that he changed his mind, isn't a good sign. Either he listens to other ppl too much or he's just hurt. Not sure. Time will tell.
Either way I feel terrible. It cost me more than i thought. If this actually ends here I will make every effort to never be with a younger guy again, although I attract them. As someone wrote before, its hard enough to build a good relationship, putting a 7 yr difference in can't make it easier. I do know a married couple with the same difference though. They've been together for years and now she's expecting her first child at 42.
I feel so lost with everything and sad. So much prejudice. Why does the woman always have to be younger? When and why was this established? Back in the day when women were not educated and didn't make a living and their sole purpose was to reproduce, cook and clean, so they married very young to older men. How nice.. Things have changed. I feel I was a coward.
These are my thoughts. Good luck to any woman in the same situation. All the best
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