Thank you for your post. Have you tried having a serious conversation with him about your feelings? Often, I feel like this is the deal breaker. If your boyfriend is willing to hear you out and actually validate your feelings as well as willing to give you an explanation for some of his actions, I think it's worth trying to save your relationship. On the other hand, when a man closes himself off, doesn't want to talk or listen, and refuses on changing anything to keep the way things currently are, then that would raise a big, red, flag. At this point, if he is unwilling to try to save your relationship then it's pretty evident that he is just waiting until one of you gets tired of the situation and gets out.
I, personally, think it's worth trying to save...but ONLY if both of you are ready and willing to work at it together.
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Deanna,
Thank you for your post. Have you tried having a serious conversation with him about your feelings? Often, I feel like this is the deal breaker. If your boyfriend is willing to hear you out and actually validate your feelings as well as willing to give you an explanation for some of his actions, I think it's worth trying to save your relationship. On the other hand, when a man closes himself off, doesn't want to talk or listen, and refuses on changing anything to keep the way things currently are, then that would raise a big, red, flag. At this point, if he is unwilling to try to save your relationship then it's pretty evident that he is just waiting until one of you gets tired of the situation and gets out.
I, personally, think it's worth trying to save...but ONLY if both of you are ready and willing to work at it together.
September 23, 2009 - 5:50amThis Comment
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