I'm sure I am going to state the obvious, but after being checked by a gynecologist for possible infections/diseases (great for you!!), using lots of lubrication, then the recommended advice would be: "if it hurts, don't do it".
Do you think your body is trying to tell you "enough!", that sex once per day is perfect, and any more than that is not pleasurable? Since you are able to have sex without pain the first time during the day, then it does not sound like there is a medical problem. Are you feeling pressured by guilt (yours or his) if you "only" have sex once per day? For many women, it is pleasurable to be intimate in other ways-- to expand your sexual repertoire---by not having intercourse every time and use more creativity and imagination in exploring and discovering each other's bodies. Do you think your body is telling you something that your mind does not want to admit? Are you wishing that you could have more touching and exploring time, or intimate talks, without the "cop out" of intercourse? (It may not be a "cop out"; I understand you may be the one pushing for sex multiple times per day, but just used that phrase to be the voice of your body as a devil's advocate...many women DO feel that their male partner begins penetration too early and sex is over quickly before they felt really aroused or had enough time to feel pleasure from touching and being close).
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I'm sure I am going to state the obvious, but after being checked by a gynecologist for possible infections/diseases (great for you!!), using lots of lubrication, then the recommended advice would be: "if it hurts, don't do it".
Do you think your body is trying to tell you "enough!", that sex once per day is perfect, and any more than that is not pleasurable? Since you are able to have sex without pain the first time during the day, then it does not sound like there is a medical problem. Are you feeling pressured by guilt (yours or his) if you "only" have sex once per day? For many women, it is pleasurable to be intimate in other ways-- to expand your sexual repertoire---by not having intercourse every time and use more creativity and imagination in exploring and discovering each other's bodies. Do you think your body is telling you something that your mind does not want to admit? Are you wishing that you could have more touching and exploring time, or intimate talks, without the "cop out" of intercourse? (It may not be a "cop out"; I understand you may be the one pushing for sex multiple times per day, but just used that phrase to be the voice of your body as a devil's advocate...many women DO feel that their male partner begins penetration too early and sex is over quickly before they felt really aroused or had enough time to feel pleasure from touching and being close).
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October 15, 2009 - 2:39pmThis Comment
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