It's not that you don't care, it's that from an NT's perspective and experience, you don't APPEAR to care. Now, an adult NT, given enough knowledge of autism, can learn to understand this and not cast blame. But an NT child simply doesn't have the ability to understand any of that yet. He or she is in a formative stage, when it's absolutely necessary to not just receive love and caring, but to perceive it, to feel it, to be nourished by it.
An adult NT can understand that the APPEARANCE of not caring is just that, an appearance, and that there is in fact caring and love. An NT child can't. All they'll know, from their perspective, is that they're unloved, that their feelings don't matter. And even if they learn more as they grow up, those deep childhood scars remain. That's what these comments are all about.
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It's not that you don't care, it's that from an NT's perspective and experience, you don't APPEAR to care. Now, an adult NT, given enough knowledge of autism, can learn to understand this and not cast blame. But an NT child simply doesn't have the ability to understand any of that yet. He or she is in a formative stage, when it's absolutely necessary to not just receive love and caring, but to perceive it, to feel it, to be nourished by it.
An adult NT can understand that the APPEARANCE of not caring is just that, an appearance, and that there is in fact caring and love. An NT child can't. All they'll know, from their perspective, is that they're unloved, that their feelings don't matter. And even if they learn more as they grow up, those deep childhood scars remain. That's what these comments are all about.
April 25, 2020 - 5:26amThis Comment
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