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Courtney,

Welcome to EmpowHer. Thank you so much for your question.

Let's back off the sex question for a moment. You are saying that you're with someone who doesn't work, is only in school to play sports, has a gambling problem and doesn't treat you well even though you moved to be with him. This is not a good relationship, Courtney.

And when you add on top of that that he isn't interested in you, I'm not sure why it's worth staying in the relationship. Two people can handle any problem -- sexually or otherwise -- only if BOTH people want to work on it. If only one person wants the behavior to change, it's not going to change. You have told your boyfriend that you are sad, mad, hurt and feeling rejected, and he hasn't responded to you with anything but less interaction and more gambling. That's not what a man does when he values his girlfriend.

You say that "even an addict would want a naked girl lying next to him." Well, not necessarily. Addiction is so strong sometimes that it takes away a person's pleasure or attention to ANYTHING else. People can lose their loved ones, their homes, their jobs and all their money through an addiction. It can be drugs, alchohol, gambling or other things -- but the addiction runs their lives.

Here's just one page about signs of a gambling addiction:

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/gambling_addiction.htm

And here's a link to Gamblers Anonymous, which is an organization like Alcoholics Anonymous:

http://www.gamblersanonymous.org/

This is a page of their frequently asked questions:

http://www.gamblersanonymous.org/qna.html

And here's their set of 20 questions to help people find out whether they are compulsive gamblers:

http://www.gamblersanonymous.org/20questions.html

Courtney, do any of these sound like your boyfriend?

If so, would you be willing to show him the sites to see if he might learn that he has a problem, and to get help for it?