Some of that definitly sounds like him! I've told him before that he has a problem! He doesn't think so, obviously. He says that Pokers not gambling. And he wins more than he loses. He says it's his "Job". He can't justify going to work 5 days a week, working for someone making crappy money, when he can go to the Casino, do what he loves, and make a ton of money. Which, in a way makes sense.
He'll never quit.
And, I could be less of a Nat about it, if it didn't consume him, and put a strain on our relationship.
What I meant by laying beside him naked, was just that.... I actually layed there beside him last night, trying to start something up, and he would just hug me, and avoid kissing me. That's when he told me he loves me too much.
It's funny you mention the Porn thing, I know whenever he does masturbate, it's to porn. And the weird thing is, that it actually bugs me. I know guys do that, but when he won't even touch me when I'm right there, but he'll touch himself to some hookers!!! Grrrrr. That hurts.
I honestly don't think he puts love and lust together. If that makes any sense. Like, when we first got together, we were doing it all the time, everywhere! Cuz he didn't care as much about me. Now, I know he loves me, but, it's like he's not sexually attracted anymore.
I DO love him yes. I just am at my limit. I've given him sooo many chances to change, and to get serious about us and this, and nothing.
I feel like the only way he'll get it is if I leave him. And, if I leave him, what am I supposed to do, sit around and wait/HOPE he comes around?!
He doesn't treat me terribly. We're like best friends. Literally.
But your right, he doesn't listen. Or he doesn't get it? Either way, it frustrates me.
Like I said, I'm at my breaking point. He doesn't communicate very well either. He's not a very serious person, so he doesn't get serious when he needs to.
And like I said before, he plays hockey for school. That's what he wants to do with his life. So, if I stayed with him, I would be following him around for years. I don't mind, I enjoy travelling. But, It doesn't seem worth it huh?
I never feel older than him, but lately I do. I haven' t got all my stuff figured out, but I know what life is. I feel like he honestly lives in a Bubble. He has his 3 friends (they gamble too. Usually with his money), me, poker, hockey, and his parents (who still do everything for him). Other than that, he doesn't care about anything.
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Some of that definitly sounds like him! I've told him before that he has a problem! He doesn't think so, obviously. He says that Pokers not gambling. And he wins more than he loses. He says it's his "Job". He can't justify going to work 5 days a week, working for someone making crappy money, when he can go to the Casino, do what he loves, and make a ton of money. Which, in a way makes sense.
He'll never quit.
And, I could be less of a Nat about it, if it didn't consume him, and put a strain on our relationship.
What I meant by laying beside him naked, was just that.... I actually layed there beside him last night, trying to start something up, and he would just hug me, and avoid kissing me. That's when he told me he loves me too much.
It's funny you mention the Porn thing, I know whenever he does masturbate, it's to porn. And the weird thing is, that it actually bugs me. I know guys do that, but when he won't even touch me when I'm right there, but he'll touch himself to some hookers!!! Grrrrr. That hurts.
I honestly don't think he puts love and lust together. If that makes any sense. Like, when we first got together, we were doing it all the time, everywhere! Cuz he didn't care as much about me. Now, I know he loves me, but, it's like he's not sexually attracted anymore.
I DO love him yes. I just am at my limit. I've given him sooo many chances to change, and to get serious about us and this, and nothing.
I feel like the only way he'll get it is if I leave him. And, if I leave him, what am I supposed to do, sit around and wait/HOPE he comes around?!
He doesn't treat me terribly. We're like best friends. Literally.
But your right, he doesn't listen. Or he doesn't get it? Either way, it frustrates me.
Like I said, I'm at my breaking point. He doesn't communicate very well either. He's not a very serious person, so he doesn't get serious when he needs to.
And like I said before, he plays hockey for school. That's what he wants to do with his life. So, if I stayed with him, I would be following him around for years. I don't mind, I enjoy travelling. But, It doesn't seem worth it huh?
I never feel older than him, but lately I do. I haven' t got all my stuff figured out, but I know what life is. I feel like he honestly lives in a Bubble. He has his 3 friends (they gamble too. Usually with his money), me, poker, hockey, and his parents (who still do everything for him). Other than that, he doesn't care about anything.
I think maybe he's the one that needs help...
October 28, 2009 - 3:00pmThis Comment
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