As a parent to a boy-- I cannot say at what age I will put him on the pill because quite frankly, I don't think it will help him ;-) I can, however, say that I can only do my best to begin communicating about sex with my son at an early age. By early, I mean around 10-12. To some it may seem too early but I am not in denial, I was a teen not too many moons ago and I know that they are talking about it in school amongst their peers. By talking about it what do I hope to achieve? Not that my son will abstain from sex until her has graduated from high school but that if and when he does choose to have sex-- he does so knowing what he is in for. If he comes to me at 15 and says "I am ready to have sex" Of course I know he isn't ready but me yelling "what the hell are you talking about?! you are not ready!" is not really going to help. So if I need to, I WILL provide my son with condoms along with my two cents.
The last thing I would want is for my son (or daughter) to google a site where he could ask questions about dry humping and pre-ejaculation. If my husband and I cannot answer these questions without losing our minds, then we have failed him as parents. It is our job to guide them whether it is at age 2, 12, or 22. Once we have done our best to guide them if they still choose to make mistakes then there is really not much we can do but accept our children as they come--mistakes and all.
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As a parent to a boy-- I cannot say at what age I will put him on the pill because quite frankly, I don't think it will help him ;-) I can, however, say that I can only do my best to begin communicating about sex with my son at an early age. By early, I mean around 10-12. To some it may seem too early but I am not in denial, I was a teen not too many moons ago and I know that they are talking about it in school amongst their peers. By talking about it what do I hope to achieve? Not that my son will abstain from sex until her has graduated from high school but that if and when he does choose to have sex-- he does so knowing what he is in for. If he comes to me at 15 and says "I am ready to have sex" Of course I know he isn't ready but me yelling "what the hell are you talking about?! you are not ready!" is not really going to help. So if I need to, I WILL provide my son with condoms along with my two cents.
The last thing I would want is for my son (or daughter) to google a site where he could ask questions about dry humping and pre-ejaculation. If my husband and I cannot answer these questions without losing our minds, then we have failed him as parents. It is our job to guide them whether it is at age 2, 12, or 22. Once we have done our best to guide them if they still choose to make mistakes then there is really not much we can do but accept our children as they come--mistakes and all.
November 15, 2009 - 5:56pmThis Comment
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