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while i understand the reasoning behind this advice, i don't think that it's as simple as it's presented here. my boyfriend and i were together for 4 1/2 years, engaged for the last year and we recently broke up. it was his idea, and i grieved. it was the most difficult thing i've ever had to go through, and i hope i never have to experience heartbreak like that ever again. however, hindsight is 20/20. we would have made an enviable married couple, for several reasons, but we wouldn't have been completely satisfied. we genuinely like(d) each other, but we were not in love the way a married couple should be in love. that's why we broke up. there wasn't enough passion in our relationship. actually, now that i think about it, there was too much friendship. that said, now that we're not in a sexual/romantic relationship, we like one another's company. he's the only person on the planet who knows everything about me, and i trust him completely. the advice presented in this article i think is too vague and a little misguided. just because you ignore an issue doesn't make it go away. spending time together and talking about our relationship and why it didn't work out is the reason matt and i can still have a friendship. we are mature, rational people and we have a great friendship that came out of our romantic relationship. in my future husband i hope that i can have a similar friendship but with more passion and zeal for one another.