Is this accurate:
- Your last menstrual period was October 18th
- You have not had sex or other sexual encounter after October 18th
- When do you expect your next menstrual period? (Are you regular?)
If so, you can not be pregnant. A menstrual period is not like implantation bleeding (implantation "bleeding" is more like a spot, and goes unnoticed by most women. It is a spot of blood on toilet paper or on your underwear; it is not heavy and does not last for days). A menstrual period means you do not have a viable pregnancy; it is the absence of a menstrual period that may be a sign of pregnancy.
(You said, "now its November we weren't so close this month..."). I am not sure what "so close" means, and you will have to be more descriptive. Did you have sex, or any type of other behaviors where his semen could be on/near/beside your vagina?
I am so sorry that you are scared of being pregnant, and I understand your worry from your experience in January. However, please take control over your body and decide what exactly you want to do. If you want to have sex and are fearful of becoming pregnant, then use birth control (pills or condom). If you want to be close with your boyfriend physically, but not have sex, then please tell him this and do physically intimate things that are not risky behaviors for pregnancy (massaging, holding hands, touching, caressing, kissing; without any exchange of bodily fluids). Just being scared for the sake of being scared from a previous bad experience..but continuing to do the exact things that make you scared...is no way to have a happy, healthy and satisfying relationship with either yourself or your boyfriend! If you continue being scared and depressed, do you have someone you can talk to about seeking counseling?
Comment Reply
Ninu,
Is this accurate:
- Your last menstrual period was October 18th
- You have not had sex or other sexual encounter after October 18th
- When do you expect your next menstrual period? (Are you regular?)
If so, you can not be pregnant. A menstrual period is not like implantation bleeding (implantation "bleeding" is more like a spot, and goes unnoticed by most women. It is a spot of blood on toilet paper or on your underwear; it is not heavy and does not last for days). A menstrual period means you do not have a viable pregnancy; it is the absence of a menstrual period that may be a sign of pregnancy.
(You said, "now its November we weren't so close this month..."). I am not sure what "so close" means, and you will have to be more descriptive. Did you have sex, or any type of other behaviors where his semen could be on/near/beside your vagina?
I am so sorry that you are scared of being pregnant, and I understand your worry from your experience in January. However, please take control over your body and decide what exactly you want to do. If you want to have sex and are fearful of becoming pregnant, then use birth control (pills or condom). If you want to be close with your boyfriend physically, but not have sex, then please tell him this and do physically intimate things that are not risky behaviors for pregnancy (massaging, holding hands, touching, caressing, kissing; without any exchange of bodily fluids). Just being scared for the sake of being scared from a previous bad experience..but continuing to do the exact things that make you scared...is no way to have a happy, healthy and satisfying relationship with either yourself or your boyfriend! If you continue being scared and depressed, do you have someone you can talk to about seeking counseling?
November 10, 2009 - 1:50pmThis Comment
Reply