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I've talked to him about it, but he refused. We did have a conversation the other day and it really opened my eyes. He said that he always feels under pressure, like I'm always expecting sex from him. He doesn't always feel up to it and my expectations of him compounds his desire to not do it. This is a phase that he always goes in and out of from time to time. Sometimes he's really into it and sometimes he could care less. Like I said, I'm always worried that one day he won't want it at all. I spoke to my therapist yesterday and that really helped a lot. As far as the self esteem goes, I was picked on relentlessly as a child. It was really bad. That probably has something to do with it... so when he rejects me like that, it makes me feel ugly and unwanted... kind of how I felt all through elementary school. Right now, everything seems to be fine between us. I tried backing off and he seemed to respond better to that. Main issue I have right now is that I'd like to be the one to initiate it from time to time without him saying no. I never say no when he wants it because I'm just so happy that he's willing, but if I try to come on to him 99% of the time it's met with rejection.