I think you said it yourself-- if he has a problem with your extra pounds now, what will it be like in the future? Unfortunately, MANY men are so shallow to the point where a few extra pounds will just turn them off. Men have the uncanny ability to judge a woman on their face, shape, and size without recognizing that they are not anywhere near perfection and that we still love them. They are visual creatures and we are emotional ones.
I don't mean to sound harsh but I have to say that you will most likely never be 100% happy in this relationship. If you stay, you will continuously worry about your weight and if you lose it you will resent him for not loving you as you come. If you don't lose the weight, chances are he will either stray from the relationship or he will simply get tired one day and leave. Is this what you want? He says he loves you but has already opened a huge can of worms by admitting he no longer feels attracted to you based on a few extra pounds. The decision is yours right now. It has been 3 years which is a significant amount of time but ending a 3 year relationship is much easier than ending a 10 year relationship even if it does not seem so at the time.
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DreaE,
Thanks for posting.
I think you said it yourself-- if he has a problem with your extra pounds now, what will it be like in the future? Unfortunately, MANY men are so shallow to the point where a few extra pounds will just turn them off. Men have the uncanny ability to judge a woman on their face, shape, and size without recognizing that they are not anywhere near perfection and that we still love them. They are visual creatures and we are emotional ones.
I don't mean to sound harsh but I have to say that you will most likely never be 100% happy in this relationship. If you stay, you will continuously worry about your weight and if you lose it you will resent him for not loving you as you come. If you don't lose the weight, chances are he will either stray from the relationship or he will simply get tired one day and leave. Is this what you want? He says he loves you but has already opened a huge can of worms by admitting he no longer feels attracted to you based on a few extra pounds. The decision is yours right now. It has been 3 years which is a significant amount of time but ending a 3 year relationship is much easier than ending a 10 year relationship even if it does not seem so at the time.
Good Luck
November 17, 2009 - 7:04amThis Comment
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