I want to say I really enjoyed your article, it is so refreshing to read about the child-free lifestyle in a manner that is mature. I believe our society over sentimentalizes childhood and parenthood. I too knew I wanted to be child-free when I was 20 and I was also frustrated by the endless comments saying "Oh you will change your mind". I am now thirty and I still get those comments! I feel that a woman knows whether she does or doesn't want to have children and she knows early. I remember being a teenager and feeling the same way. It is in our biology.
I would also like to thank you for not mentioning the typical reasons pro-parenthood advocates site for people not wanting to have children, like we want to maintain our partying lifestyle and don't want to lose our figure! My reasons are simple: schizophrenia runs in my family (I don't have it but I don't want to risk my offspring getting it), I love my partner too much to put the strain of having children on our relationship and have him relegated to second place, I want to contribute to the world through volunteering and donating to worthy causes instead of raising spoiled western children, I have a fulfilling career that betters the world in a small way, creating more children is detrimental to the environment (especially Western children), I would be a financial burden on them when I get holder and there are many more, none of which are selfish! I want to leave saying that people choose to have children for selfish reasons (to have someone to love, relive childhood, carry on their genes/legacy, to have a living tribute to their partner) and they are in no place to judge other peoples decision and their right to live a complete and fulfilling life!
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Hi Rheyanne,
I want to say I really enjoyed your article, it is so refreshing to read about the child-free lifestyle in a manner that is mature. I believe our society over sentimentalizes childhood and parenthood. I too knew I wanted to be child-free when I was 20 and I was also frustrated by the endless comments saying "Oh you will change your mind". I am now thirty and I still get those comments! I feel that a woman knows whether she does or doesn't want to have children and she knows early. I remember being a teenager and feeling the same way. It is in our biology.
I would also like to thank you for not mentioning the typical reasons pro-parenthood advocates site for people not wanting to have children, like we want to maintain our partying lifestyle and don't want to lose our figure! My reasons are simple: schizophrenia runs in my family (I don't have it but I don't want to risk my offspring getting it), I love my partner too much to put the strain of having children on our relationship and have him relegated to second place, I want to contribute to the world through volunteering and donating to worthy causes instead of raising spoiled western children, I have a fulfilling career that betters the world in a small way, creating more children is detrimental to the environment (especially Western children), I would be a financial burden on them when I get holder and there are many more, none of which are selfish! I want to leave saying that people choose to have children for selfish reasons (to have someone to love, relive childhood, carry on their genes/legacy, to have a living tribute to their partner) and they are in no place to judge other peoples decision and their right to live a complete and fulfilling life!
All the best!
Sandy
January 3, 2010 - 10:45pmThis Comment
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