Hi there - it's so difficult to tell, but I think gut instinct is a very powerful thing. One night catch him off guard and ask him straight out - "you have one and one chance only to tell me the truth here so if you think of lying I would sincerely advise against it. Were you cheating in me with a certain someone recently?"
I have caught two boyfriends out like this because they thought I knew something... Which I actually didn't. This pattern of behaviour is very worrying, but then equally it may have just been a phase or a stressful period of his life, so you are certainly the best judge of that. If he replies that he hasn't cheated on you and gets angry, say nothing and start packing - there are two reasons for this. 1. It scares the hell out of them because their being angry is a way to dominate and make you feel terrible about asking a question that EVERY person has a right to ask their spouse or partner. 2. An angry, defensive or aggressive reaction usually indicates there is something he is hiding. Be strong. You have to be clear in your mind what you want from this exercise and follow through. Best of luck x
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Hi there - it's so difficult to tell, but I think gut instinct is a very powerful thing. One night catch him off guard and ask him straight out - "you have one and one chance only to tell me the truth here so if you think of lying I would sincerely advise against it. Were you cheating in me with a certain someone recently?"
I have caught two boyfriends out like this because they thought I knew something... Which I actually didn't. This pattern of behaviour is very worrying, but then equally it may have just been a phase or a stressful period of his life, so you are certainly the best judge of that. If he replies that he hasn't cheated on you and gets angry, say nothing and start packing - there are two reasons for this. 1. It scares the hell out of them because their being angry is a way to dominate and make you feel terrible about asking a question that EVERY person has a right to ask their spouse or partner. 2. An angry, defensive or aggressive reaction usually indicates there is something he is hiding. Be strong. You have to be clear in your mind what you want from this exercise and follow through. Best of luck x
July 7, 2014 - 9:21amThis Comment
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