I think that makes a lot of sense: Is he ok with the our sexual situation right now? And yes, many of your points are allowing me to see more of the other side and I find it very helpful. I think he would like to have more sex, but he thinks he doesn't have time for it. He literally works around the clock-- and just last night we spent the evening just sitting next to each other while I watched a movie and his face was buried in his computer designing. He has just left this morning to a flight for this super stressful, giant load of work for 2 weeks- which makes me more frustrated that he wont be around. I know he is stressed, but I guess my point is, I feel that for most of our relationship I feel I have always been the one being the emotionally supportive, having to put certain things aside for him because he is so stressed about work and money. I know he wants kids soon.. I know he also wants to move soon.. so i can understand what all the stress is, but where will there ever be time for me. I feel that in a relationship, both parties have needs to be fulfilled and its important for the relationship to do those things... and after over a year together, how much more will it be a 70 - 30 split. I wish I could be more selfless, but I am only human and I just want to enjoy being with my boyfriend and not always have it always be about his needs. It worries me that its like this, but we're not even married yet.. the first year is usually a bit of a honeymoon period.
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I think that makes a lot of sense: Is he ok with the our sexual situation right now? And yes, many of your points are allowing me to see more of the other side and I find it very helpful. I think he would like to have more sex, but he thinks he doesn't have time for it. He literally works around the clock-- and just last night we spent the evening just sitting next to each other while I watched a movie and his face was buried in his computer designing. He has just left this morning to a flight for this super stressful, giant load of work for 2 weeks- which makes me more frustrated that he wont be around. I know he is stressed, but I guess my point is, I feel that for most of our relationship I feel I have always been the one being the emotionally supportive, having to put certain things aside for him because he is so stressed about work and money. I know he wants kids soon.. I know he also wants to move soon.. so i can understand what all the stress is, but where will there ever be time for me. I feel that in a relationship, both parties have needs to be fulfilled and its important for the relationship to do those things... and after over a year together, how much more will it be a 70 - 30 split. I wish I could be more selfless, but I am only human and I just want to enjoy being with my boyfriend and not always have it always be about his needs. It worries me that its like this, but we're not even married yet.. the first year is usually a bit of a honeymoon period.
January 3, 2010 - 9:56amThis Comment
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