FIrst of all, you can not apologize for writing something so long. Reading through that, and hearing your experience very similar in regards to time together made me feel so much better. I might admit to shedding a tear or 2! Its obvious I love this man very much. And the funny thing is, we were head over heels for each other after getting together the first and now this time. We both are also very independent people before being with each other, and I guess i need to remind myself of the beauty of that in itself. It's funny how his friends see him change and mine too. For 2 very independent people, we are very much attached to each other. As much as we are lovers, we are very much best friends. Another similarity is that we too fight a lot, but still love each other. We both say to each other, wow, i cant believe the heated arguments we have with each other. But still we want to work so hard through it. Bottom line for the both of us is that we love each other very much. Getting through the past few months was hard, but now somehow feels like it gives way for a new beginning.. like a new chapter. It's so interesting how common that is-- With friends and my sister, I always hear that they have fought constantly, or that they broke up 15 times before finally getting married.
To answer your questions, I do know that he thinks his work situation sucks and wished it wasn't so hard. I have expressed to him how I feel about the 70 - 30 in the past, and he thinks I should wait until it gets better. I know that work is out of his control, and I have a lot of respect for his work ethic. I know that he's doing it all for the future. Maybe the best thing I can do is to hang in there and make sure that we both know where we are and how everything (whatever it is) is making us feel / affecting us. Sometimes, it just isn't that easy. And you make a good point that in the end, as long as we are honest with each other, things will happen naturally and for the better-- change what i can for the better, and let the things out of my control take its course. It's hard when you have so much invested in someone, and when you're feelings are so deeply in it.
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FIrst of all, you can not apologize for writing something so long. Reading through that, and hearing your experience very similar in regards to time together made me feel so much better. I might admit to shedding a tear or 2! Its obvious I love this man very much. And the funny thing is, we were head over heels for each other after getting together the first and now this time. We both are also very independent people before being with each other, and I guess i need to remind myself of the beauty of that in itself. It's funny how his friends see him change and mine too. For 2 very independent people, we are very much attached to each other. As much as we are lovers, we are very much best friends. Another similarity is that we too fight a lot, but still love each other. We both say to each other, wow, i cant believe the heated arguments we have with each other. But still we want to work so hard through it. Bottom line for the both of us is that we love each other very much. Getting through the past few months was hard, but now somehow feels like it gives way for a new beginning.. like a new chapter. It's so interesting how common that is-- With friends and my sister, I always hear that they have fought constantly, or that they broke up 15 times before finally getting married.
January 3, 2010 - 3:13pmTo answer your questions, I do know that he thinks his work situation sucks and wished it wasn't so hard. I have expressed to him how I feel about the 70 - 30 in the past, and he thinks I should wait until it gets better. I know that work is out of his control, and I have a lot of respect for his work ethic. I know that he's doing it all for the future. Maybe the best thing I can do is to hang in there and make sure that we both know where we are and how everything (whatever it is) is making us feel / affecting us. Sometimes, it just isn't that easy. And you make a good point that in the end, as long as we are honest with each other, things will happen naturally and for the better-- change what i can for the better, and let the things out of my control take its course. It's hard when you have so much invested in someone, and when you're feelings are so deeply in it.
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