I'm just now catching up with you from over the weekend. I am so, so, so glad that you wrote to us in the first place, and that your boyfriend insisted you go to the hospital to get this checked out. (And besides that, to have a boyfriend likes Audrey Hepburn movies is a wonderful thing!)
It is frightening to know how sick you were when you went to the hospital, isn't it? I know it was so scary -- you had never even had a pelvic exam -- but it sounds like everything went well and that you'll be fine when you get over your infection and the soreness from the surgery. A week in the hospital is a pretty long time!
Glad your parents and boyfriend are there. And while as lawyers your parents ARE extremely busy, perhaps this will be a bit of a wakeup call to them as well -- you had told them (or one of them?) that you were having this bleeding and pain, right? And they didn't insist that you go to the doctor right then. Or are you a person who has some trouble standing up for herself? Please learn from this to trust your gut instinct -- you knew there was something wrong, even though it was scary to deal with it.
And memorize the feeling you have with the doctor who doesn't treat you like a child. Throughout your life, when you need doctors for different things, you want doctors who look you in the eye, talk with you like your feelings matter, give you all the information you need and want, and make decisions with you about what is best for your body. It doesn't matter if it's a gynecologist or an allergy doctor or anything in between, you want a doctor who talks TO you instead of AT you, and one who shares information and is open to all your questions without being impatient.
What's happening with you today? Is your pain any better? How about the nausea?
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Billiegirl,
I'm just now catching up with you from over the weekend. I am so, so, so glad that you wrote to us in the first place, and that your boyfriend insisted you go to the hospital to get this checked out. (And besides that, to have a boyfriend likes Audrey Hepburn movies is a wonderful thing!)
It is frightening to know how sick you were when you went to the hospital, isn't it? I know it was so scary -- you had never even had a pelvic exam -- but it sounds like everything went well and that you'll be fine when you get over your infection and the soreness from the surgery. A week in the hospital is a pretty long time!
Glad your parents and boyfriend are there. And while as lawyers your parents ARE extremely busy, perhaps this will be a bit of a wakeup call to them as well -- you had told them (or one of them?) that you were having this bleeding and pain, right? And they didn't insist that you go to the doctor right then. Or are you a person who has some trouble standing up for herself? Please learn from this to trust your gut instinct -- you knew there was something wrong, even though it was scary to deal with it.
And memorize the feeling you have with the doctor who doesn't treat you like a child. Throughout your life, when you need doctors for different things, you want doctors who look you in the eye, talk with you like your feelings matter, give you all the information you need and want, and make decisions with you about what is best for your body. It doesn't matter if it's a gynecologist or an allergy doctor or anything in between, you want a doctor who talks TO you instead of AT you, and one who shares information and is open to all your questions without being impatient.
What's happening with you today? Is your pain any better? How about the nausea?
January 11, 2010 - 8:15amThis Comment
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