Welcome to EmpowHer and thank you for your post. I am sorry you seem to have hit a plateau in your relationship as have many other women on our site. I know you say you have a great relationship besides the fact that sex has become an issue for the past three years, but have you considered that you have both just settled for each other? Or that he may have settled and you are still very much in love?
I know it isn't something you want to hear but a man who masturbates frequently and watches porn very much has an active libido. The problem may not lie within you dressing sexy, using toys, or changing birth control. At this point, after three years, the problem may no longer be a problem to him because he has moved past this and perhaps (though I am not suggesting this is the reason) he may be seeing someone else on the side that is fulfilling the need that you are still missing.
I truly wish I could give you the solution to your problem but the reality is that there could be a million possible answers to this question. I have attached the link to a post that is similar to yours and could possibly help.
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Dear Anon,
Welcome to EmpowHer and thank you for your post. I am sorry you seem to have hit a plateau in your relationship as have many other women on our site. I know you say you have a great relationship besides the fact that sex has become an issue for the past three years, but have you considered that you have both just settled for each other? Or that he may have settled and you are still very much in love?
I know it isn't something you want to hear but a man who masturbates frequently and watches porn very much has an active libido. The problem may not lie within you dressing sexy, using toys, or changing birth control. At this point, after three years, the problem may no longer be a problem to him because he has moved past this and perhaps (though I am not suggesting this is the reason) he may be seeing someone else on the side that is fulfilling the need that you are still missing.
I truly wish I could give you the solution to your problem but the reality is that there could be a million possible answers to this question. I have attached the link to a post that is similar to yours and could possibly help.
https://www.empowher.com/community/ask/why-doesnt-my-boyfriend-want-have-sex-me-anymore
Hope it helps and good luck to you,
Rosa
January 11, 2010 - 4:53amThis Comment
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