Hi married4-10yrs - Thanks for writing back. Alison has provided some great advice. Most likely you've never been to counseling before, so working with a therapist would be a new experience. Their role is to assist you in understanding and gaining perspective on your current situation and assist you in developing goals and moving forward in life. This is not finding fault, or what's wrong, or "fixing" people. It is very difficult, if not impossible, for most of us to gain perspective on our own individual lives or the daily lives that we live. An impartial third party who's been properly trained has the ability to do that without bias, without drama and without judgment. Counseling helps people, and improves lives. The role is somewhat like a facilitator's role in a business meeting - to keep the discussion on track and productive. Without the benefit of counseling a lot of people would just keep going over and over the same thoughts in their own minds, and that is absolutely useless. It's clear you have a lot of concerns and are very frustrated. A counselor can help you handle those same concerns in a more constructive manner so that you can take actions to resolve the issues you face and move on with your life. Otherwise you could end up having the same issues for many more years. You deserve a healthy, supportive relationship and to feel comfortable in your own home. I sincerely believe that having professional assistance will help you to get that and hope you will consider it.
Take care, Pat
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Hi married4-10yrs - Thanks for writing back. Alison has provided some great advice. Most likely you've never been to counseling before, so working with a therapist would be a new experience. Their role is to assist you in understanding and gaining perspective on your current situation and assist you in developing goals and moving forward in life. This is not finding fault, or what's wrong, or "fixing" people. It is very difficult, if not impossible, for most of us to gain perspective on our own individual lives or the daily lives that we live. An impartial third party who's been properly trained has the ability to do that without bias, without drama and without judgment. Counseling helps people, and improves lives. The role is somewhat like a facilitator's role in a business meeting - to keep the discussion on track and productive. Without the benefit of counseling a lot of people would just keep going over and over the same thoughts in their own minds, and that is absolutely useless. It's clear you have a lot of concerns and are very frustrated. A counselor can help you handle those same concerns in a more constructive manner so that you can take actions to resolve the issues you face and move on with your life. Otherwise you could end up having the same issues for many more years. You deserve a healthy, supportive relationship and to feel comfortable in your own home. I sincerely believe that having professional assistance will help you to get that and hope you will consider it.
February 25, 2010 - 9:38pmTake care, Pat
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