Keep your head up sweetie.
Your boyfriend has a far deeper problem than what you or I could ever try to comprehend.
His anxiety that he experiences when it comes to sexual contact is much more in depth then just anxiety. There is a hidden key to the reasons behind why he is uncomfortable with sex.
There could be so many reasons for his conscience or sub-conscience fears of sex.
He may have been mentally brain washed as a child that sex is "forbidden" "it is evil" or "you will go to hell if you do".
Children that are raised by very religious people and being brain washed with these thoughts in your head will cause a serious impact on their future relationships. Something you have been taught your whole life is not easy to give up over night.
Another reason could be that he was severely sexually abused as a child which can devastate a child. Because of such a horrible experience it may be what is lingering in his head and its hard for him to relate sex as a good experience.
Men also have self conscious issues and self esteem issue that can also create anxiety. If men grew up not happy with their "manhood" and made a habit of self-inflicted mental abuse. If they aren't happy with themselves they do not believe they can make you happy.
You have to try and find the core reasons for his fears of sex.
Its called: erotophobia
An exaggerated or irrational fear of sexual feelings. The condition is characterized by feelings of guilt and fear about sex. Sufferers dislkike talking about sex, are less likely to engage in sexual relations and have a very negative view of sexually explicit material.
The list of signs and symptoms mentioned in various sources for Erotophobia includes the 9 symptoms listed below:
* Irrational fear of sexual feelings
* Feeling of panic
* Feeling of terror
* Feeling of dread
* Rapid heartbeat
* Shortness of breath
* Trembling
* Anxiety
* Extreme avoidance measures taken
You can't fix it by yourself. Whatever ever the cause for his anxiety will take a lot of help to reverse. The best you can do, no matter how frustrating it is, if you really care about him you have to understand the problem and support him through it.
Professional therapy will definitely help but I doubt it will be easy to convince him to try it.
i hope my information was helpful.
Its not you and never think that its you.
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Hi kelsk,
Keep your head up sweetie.
Your boyfriend has a far deeper problem than what you or I could ever try to comprehend.
His anxiety that he experiences when it comes to sexual contact is much more in depth then just anxiety. There is a hidden key to the reasons behind why he is uncomfortable with sex.
There could be so many reasons for his conscience or sub-conscience fears of sex.
He may have been mentally brain washed as a child that sex is "forbidden" "it is evil" or "you will go to hell if you do".
Children that are raised by very religious people and being brain washed with these thoughts in your head will cause a serious impact on their future relationships. Something you have been taught your whole life is not easy to give up over night.
Another reason could be that he was severely sexually abused as a child which can devastate a child. Because of such a horrible experience it may be what is lingering in his head and its hard for him to relate sex as a good experience.
Men also have self conscious issues and self esteem issue that can also create anxiety. If men grew up not happy with their "manhood" and made a habit of self-inflicted mental abuse. If they aren't happy with themselves they do not believe they can make you happy.
You have to try and find the core reasons for his fears of sex.
Its called: erotophobia
An exaggerated or irrational fear of sexual feelings. The condition is characterized by feelings of guilt and fear about sex. Sufferers dislkike talking about sex, are less likely to engage in sexual relations and have a very negative view of sexually explicit material.
The list of signs and symptoms mentioned in various sources for Erotophobia includes the 9 symptoms listed below:
* Irrational fear of sexual feelings
* Feeling of panic
* Feeling of terror
* Feeling of dread
* Rapid heartbeat
* Shortness of breath
* Trembling
* Anxiety
* Extreme avoidance measures taken
You can't fix it by yourself. Whatever ever the cause for his anxiety will take a lot of help to reverse. The best you can do, no matter how frustrating it is, if you really care about him you have to understand the problem and support him through it.
Professional therapy will definitely help but I doubt it will be easy to convince him to try it.
i hope my information was helpful.
March 3, 2010 - 6:27pmIts not you and never think that its you.
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