I am so sorry to hear about the issues you are having in your marriage. I don't think it is ever too late as long as both individuals are willing to try very hard to save a marriage or relationship. You said you were in counseling but is he also?
You said he is very distant and withdrawn. Do you suspect another relationship and/or drug or alcohol abuse? From my own experience, lack of intimacy in a relationship usually revolves around those two things.
I would give you advice on two things. First, if he is not in counseling with you, try to get him to go and talk to him about what he is really feeling about the relationship and what he intends to do. Second, try to prepare yourself that you may have to move on and learn to live on your own. Both of these things are scary, but we have to hope for the best and prepare for the worst.
Things you two would have to talk about is child support, living arrangements and so forth. Leaving a spouse is not as easy as, let's move out. There are so many things that have to occur and trying to work things out together may certainly be easier. Try and talk to him about that sense as there are children involved in the relationship.
I think many relationships are turbulent after 7 to 8 years. You ask yourself questions and maybe you are unsure about where you ended up. This is common but many people get through it together. Can you two talk or has communication shut down also?
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Hi Alone,
I am so sorry to hear about the issues you are having in your marriage. I don't think it is ever too late as long as both individuals are willing to try very hard to save a marriage or relationship. You said you were in counseling but is he also?
You said he is very distant and withdrawn. Do you suspect another relationship and/or drug or alcohol abuse? From my own experience, lack of intimacy in a relationship usually revolves around those two things.
I would give you advice on two things. First, if he is not in counseling with you, try to get him to go and talk to him about what he is really feeling about the relationship and what he intends to do. Second, try to prepare yourself that you may have to move on and learn to live on your own. Both of these things are scary, but we have to hope for the best and prepare for the worst.
Things you two would have to talk about is child support, living arrangements and so forth. Leaving a spouse is not as easy as, let's move out. There are so many things that have to occur and trying to work things out together may certainly be easier. Try and talk to him about that sense as there are children involved in the relationship.
I think many relationships are turbulent after 7 to 8 years. You ask yourself questions and maybe you are unsure about where you ended up. This is common but many people get through it together. Can you two talk or has communication shut down also?
March 20, 2010 - 9:37amThis Comment
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