Thanks. I don't always feel like I am doing great. I just feel like sometimes that someone has told me that my husband has a fatal disease and that he will be dead soon and I want to make the last days or weeks that he is in my house the best they can be so that our last memories of being together aren't of us fighting or being so ugly to each other. Because that is not hwo our marriage was. So that is not how I want to remember it or want him to remember it.
He has opened up a little more to me and now more than ever I am beginning to understand more and a lot of things are what I had already thought. He seriously needs to continue counseling regardless of whether we stay together or not. He feels like there are so many things that he has not done or has been to scared to do and has a lot of regrets. It is funny but at 33 I think he is going through his mid-life crisis. He feels like if he stays with me and tries to work on these issues about himself that he won't fix them because he will keep running back to what is comfortable. I told him that there was nothing wrong with feeling comfort in your spouse when you were scared of something or had regrets or whatever. That is what I am here for and that is what he has been there for me for. He said he has been afraid of failure. I just laughed said what do you think leaving our marriage is going to be.
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Thanks. I don't always feel like I am doing great. I just feel like sometimes that someone has told me that my husband has a fatal disease and that he will be dead soon and I want to make the last days or weeks that he is in my house the best they can be so that our last memories of being together aren't of us fighting or being so ugly to each other. Because that is not hwo our marriage was. So that is not how I want to remember it or want him to remember it.
He has opened up a little more to me and now more than ever I am beginning to understand more and a lot of things are what I had already thought. He seriously needs to continue counseling regardless of whether we stay together or not. He feels like there are so many things that he has not done or has been to scared to do and has a lot of regrets. It is funny but at 33 I think he is going through his mid-life crisis. He feels like if he stays with me and tries to work on these issues about himself that he won't fix them because he will keep running back to what is comfortable. I told him that there was nothing wrong with feeling comfort in your spouse when you were scared of something or had regrets or whatever. That is what I am here for and that is what he has been there for me for. He said he has been afraid of failure. I just laughed said what do you think leaving our marriage is going to be.
April 1, 2010 - 9:59amThis Comment
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