Welcome to EmpowHer! And thanks for your question.
You and your boyfriend have been together since you were 14 and he was 19. First, I need to say that it's a crime to have sex with a girl who's under age 16, even if she consents to it. Did you know this, Ava? I'm sure your boyfriend did, and it is upsetting that he wouldn't wait for you to turn of age.
But another issue with starting a serious relationship at 14 and 19 is that things just change over time, people grow. Those ages are young, before people truly begin to know themselves. You two have recently moved, he's working at a job and is tired at night. Neither of you probably have many friends because it's a new place and you're away from family and old friends, right?
Do you work? Do you go to school? What is your daily life like?
Do you think internet porn may be a factor? It is in many relationships these days.
Do you think he may be suffering from depression? Has he lost interest in other things that he used to be interested in?
Do the two of you have goals together?
Tell us a little more about your situation. Maybe we can help you figure something out.
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Ava,
Welcome to EmpowHer! And thanks for your question.
You and your boyfriend have been together since you were 14 and he was 19. First, I need to say that it's a crime to have sex with a girl who's under age 16, even if she consents to it. Did you know this, Ava? I'm sure your boyfriend did, and it is upsetting that he wouldn't wait for you to turn of age.
But another issue with starting a serious relationship at 14 and 19 is that things just change over time, people grow. Those ages are young, before people truly begin to know themselves. You two have recently moved, he's working at a job and is tired at night. Neither of you probably have many friends because it's a new place and you're away from family and old friends, right?
Do you work? Do you go to school? What is your daily life like?
Do you think internet porn may be a factor? It is in many relationships these days.
Do you think he may be suffering from depression? Has he lost interest in other things that he used to be interested in?
Do the two of you have goals together?
Tell us a little more about your situation. Maybe we can help you figure something out.
March 26, 2010 - 9:19amThis Comment
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